For those who don’t know, Olympic gold medalist Simone Biles and her NFL husband Jon Owens were in the news for making a lot of ladies upset. Apparently…brace yourselves…Owens thinks that men are the “catch.” And what’s worse! Simone Biles actively pursued him and made the first move! *shock and horror *
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This one goes out to all the Christians who are trying to live by Christ’s standards, and they’re asked this question. Especially if you feel like you’re the only one following the rules and getting nowhere for your efforts.
The question relates to what I’m looking for in a mate. The question implies that you will probably never find what you’re looking for because what you want is unrealistic and thus, you need to let go of these standards and get with the times.
Even if you rephrase the question with the warning of, “you know the kind of person you’re looking for is rare, right?” There are still implications. If you don’t follow up with any kind of encouragement, it does suggest that YOU THINK I should look for something else.
Continue ReadingDespite the inflammatory title, it is a legit question that I ask with love and kindness. Because I have a great deal of compassion for the ladies of my generation…especially the ones who think “if I don’t have sex with him, I’ll lose him.”
As always, I must disclaim that I’m not talking about ALL women. There are a lot of women who understand what I’m about to say. I’m trying to help those who don’t. Also, it’s to help the Good Men out there, not the Pookies and Ray-Rays who have no intentions of getting married, yet they still expect sex from you.
Because I think this topic is a HUGE reason why a lot of women may find Good Christian men intimidating. They’ll say we’re lame, boring, or that they’re naturally attracted to the bad boys. But in truth, I suspect they’re intimidated by Good Christian Men who live by God’s standards because, without sex, they honestly don’t know what else they can offer a man. Thus, they have little to no power over him. Let’s talk about it.
Continue ReadingHere, we have an interview where a 40-year-old woman explains that the reason why she broke up with her Good Man…is because the Sex wasn’t good. This woman claims to be a Christian. The man she was with, claimed to be a Christian. This is a problem.
Ladies and gentlemen, plainly put…all sex outside of marriage is wrong. If you’re engaging in the hook-up culture, if you’re having sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend and you’re not married, you’re indulging in sexual immorality. It’s called fornication. According to 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, the Scriptures tell us that people like this have no place in the Kingdom of Heaven.
In the video, you’ll find around 8:47 mark, that the woman says, “I would literally pray” for the sex to get better. And then she laughs that, “I probably shouldn’t have been praying to God to fix the sex in my non-married relationship.”
Hey gang! This one is just a light-hearted post about some theories I had regarding attraction, what Women say they want versus what they REALLY go for.
I want to make it clear that I could be wrong about EVERYTHING! These are just theories, not conclusions. Long story short, I believe that while a majority of women might SAY to themselves that they want the hot guy, the guy who’s over six feet tall, who’s dressed in a business suit and looks successful.
If that woman walked into a room where she sees the guy she “Claims” she wants, and also an ordinary guy who looks like John Krasinski’s character from “The Office”…even though she wants the Brad, she’s probably going to go for the Office looking guy, because she’s less intimidated by the Office guy who looks easier. By easy, I mean she can feel more relaxed and not worry about impressing him so much. He may end up in the “Friend zone”…or she may just settle for him, giving up on her romantic ambitions.
I have some provocative theories as to why this is happening, especially with my current generation. I also opine that Birth Control might have something to do with it based on a video I watched from Sydney Watson. Harkens back to a fun little essay I wrote about being a “Tall Guy” and never truly realizing that being tall was something desired. Good fun!
Easy…Calm down. This one is just a casual conversation with some thought-provoking theories. I could be right or wrong. Let me know what you think.
A common complaint from a lot of ladies are that most of the Black Single men out there…we’re gay. To be honest, I’m not insulted or offended. To this day, some of my peers often assume that I’m gay because I haven’t had a date in some time. Not to mention, the way I talk, I smile a lot, I used to listen to kpop and Backstreet Boys, etc.
But more than that, I think I know why ladies would rather assume a man must be gay IF he’s not checking for her or approaching her in the gym or at the mall. Long story short, it’s about protecting their ego.
Continue ReadingRecently, the Daily Rap Up Crew hosted Dr. Umar to discussed culture and relationships within the Black Community. Dr. Umar opines that Black Women have every reason to be angry at Black Men. Let’s talk about it…
Dr. Umar’s Points:
- Black Men Should Only Be with Black Women
- Black Women Can’t Talk to African Men the same Way the Talk to American Men
- Black Men are Responsible for Single Parent Households
- Black Men are Responsible for the “Poor Selection”
- Black Men Don’t Provide for the Community
My issue with his points boils down to this. If Black Men are responsible for all that, do we also have the power and authority? Can we force others to do things against their will? Can we drag someone by the scruff of their neck or block them from entering a strip club? Can we go into homes and confiscate all the rap music and take it outside to burn them? Are we allowed to kick down doors and stop unmarried people from having sex?
I take this personally because I see what’s going on in the “Black Community”. We see that it’s getting progressively worse. WE KNOW that the main problem is the lack of families and the epidemic of single-parent households where children aren’t being raised with strong fathers in the household and the subsequent lack of Christianity…but exactly do they expect us to do?
Continue ReadingThe Passport Bros isn’t just a fad. It’s growing. More and more men are fed up with the modern progressive woman, so they’re grabbing their passports and going overseas to find more “good traditional women”.
That sounds great. I get it. But from what I’m seeing, there’s just one issue that makes me cringe every time I see a video about the Passport Bros and how much “fun” they’re having with their so-called traditional women in places like Thailand, Brazil, or Colombia…are those ladies really “traditional”? Do these men really want “traditional” women? Or are they seeking something else?
For those who don’t know, the Passport Bros began as a few select men started making posts about their travels overseas where they’ve met women who they felt were far more pleasant than the stereotypical western American woman. They believed that by seeking out foreign women, they can find a more authentic, fulfilling, and harmonious relationship.
Continue ReadingIf you knew that getting married to a stable responsible man gave your child the best possible chances for success in life, would you take it? Even IF your child could succeed without having the married father in the household, why wouldn’t you take this route if you knew it gave your child a better chance?
I’ve already written about Single Mothers who were “Tricked and Lied” to, so I don’t want to rehash that angle. But as many of us know, things will only continue to get worse in this secular society where people turn their back on Biblical wisdom.
In this video, I respond to a clip from a woman who lays out her argument about how men are manipulative and why Single Moms should NOT lower their standards. She says that men don’t come with warning signs saying they “ain’t ish”. I wasn’t offended, mainly because I know she isn’t talking about men like me…but at the same time, I do see a pattern that’s constantly repeating itself.
1. I think too many people are comfortable with the notion of, “You gotta make these horrible mistakes to learn and grow.“…as if it’s impossible to simply heed the advice from the older generation and avoid learning from THEIR mistakes.
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2. The lack of shame. I’m not advocating for people to walk around feeling sorry for themselves. But when you have made a mistake and you’re dealing with the consequences of that mistake…Well, part of the reason why Baby Momma Culture is making waves is because ladies who are having children outside of wedlock are bragging about their mistakes. (Jeremiah 6:15)
This is a problem, especially when you’re a celebrity with a degree of influence because it teaches/encourages others to have no shame in following in your footsteps. I break it down in the video.
First off, I apologize for the click-baity title, because I can’t entirely say the Manosphere has “ruined” the way Millennials date…in so much as it’s changed the way we date. Make no mistake, there are some great things that’s come from the rise of the Manosphere. But when experience is passed down with the absence of Godly wisdom, it can also be destructive and do more harm than good.
Here, I expound on the sixth of eight main points I’ve personally observed to help explain how one thing after another has sabotaged (ruined) dating for my generation. And at the end of each section, I’ll try my best to provide a solution because, I know…these sound like excuses. But I haven’t given up. I still have faith.
- The Hook-Up Culture (Non-Monogamous Dating)
- Tinder (Dating Apps)
- Cat-Calling and False Accusations
- Gynocentrism – The Worship of Women
- Brett Kavanaugh and Weaponizing Women
- The Rise of the Manosphere
- The Sisterhood
- Leaving Christianity at the Door
The rise of the Manosphere was a reaction to how Gynocentric the mainstream culture has become. It’s the counterculture, the result of Men adapting to a society that’s shown them no love, no appreciation, and little to no reward for the hard work, sacrifices, or very the essence of who they are.
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