Recently, Pearl Davis of Red Pill fame published a video called, “Can God Save Modern Women?”
As she began her case, I was surprised to hear about her Christian background. Apparently, she went to a Catholic school and has an extensive Christian upbringing. And yet, she has a lot a criticism when it comes to whether Modern Women are any better in the church.
In 2019, a woman named Hannah Brown made headlines while starring as the “Bachelorette”…where she proudly proclaimed, “I’ve have had sex and honestly, Jesus still loves me.“
Fair enough. Jesus still loves you. Sure. Sure. Now ask yourself…do you think he’s happy with you? Do you think he’s happy with what you’ve done? Do you care? Is that important to you? Because talk is cheap. What do your actions demonstrate?
This one goes out to all the Christians who are trying to live by Christ’s standards, and they’re asked this question. Especially if you feel like you’re the only one following the rules and getting nowhere for your efforts.
The question relates to what I’m looking for in a mate. The question implies that you will probably never find what you’re looking for because what you want is unrealistic and thus, you need to let go of these standards and get with the times.
Even if you rephrase the question with the warning of, “you know the kind of person you’re looking for is rare, right?” There are still implications. If you don’t follow up with any kind of encouragement, it does suggest that YOU THINK I should look for something else.
I know…a lot of us Christian Men who are looking for wives aren’t having a lot of success being the “Good Men” we were raised to. So, so it’s easy to hear advice from Fresh and Fit or the Whatever Podcast and tell yourself, “Oh…that’s the kind of guy I need to be. Not this chivalrous gentleman opening doors and buying her flowers. I need to make her work for all that!”
Long story short…be yourselves, fellas. If you change/pretend to be someone you’re not just to get the girl, eventually the facade will fade, and she’ll see you for who you are. More importantly, as men, it’s our duty to lead.
Despite the inflammatory title, it is a legit question that I ask with love and kindness. Because I have a great deal of compassion for the ladies of my generation…especially the ones who think “if I don’t have sex with him, I’ll lose him.”
As always, I must disclaim that I’m not talking about ALL women. There are a lot of women who understand what I’m about to say. I’m trying to help those who don’t. Also, it’s to help the Good Men out there, not the Pookies and Ray-Rays who have no intentions of getting married, yet they still expect sex from you.
Because I think this topic is a HUGE reason why a lot of women may find Good Christian men intimidating. They’ll say we’re lame, boring, or that they’re naturally attracted to the bad boys. But in truth, I suspect they’re intimidated by Good Christian Men who live by God’s standards because, without sex, they honestly don’t know what else they can offer a man. Thus, they have little to no power over him. Let’s talk about it.
Hey gang! This one is just a light-hearted post about some theories I had regarding attraction, what Women say they want versus what they REALLY go for.
I want to make it clear that I could be wrong about EVERYTHING! These are just theories, not conclusions. Long story short, I believe that while a majority of women might SAY to themselves that they want the hot guy, the guy who’s over six feet tall, who’s dressed in a business suit and looks successful.
If that woman walked into a room where she sees the guy she “Claims” she wants, and also an ordinary guy who looks like John Krasinski’s character from “The Office”…even though she wants the Brad, she’s probably going to go for the Office looking guy, because she’s less intimidated by the Office guy who looks easier. By easy, I mean she can feel more relaxed and not worry about impressing him so much. He may end up in the “Friend zone”…or she may just settle for him, giving up on her romantic ambitions.
I have some provocative theories as to why this is happening, especially with my current generation. I also opine that Birth Control might have something to do with it based on a video I watched from Sydney Watson. Harkens back to a fun little essay I wrote about being a “Tall Guy” and never truly realizing that being tall was something desired. Good fun!
🔥 This is a reaction to a woman who cheated on her husband down in Mexico and had the audacity to say “God sent this man” to help her cheat.
Fellas….FELLAS do not ignore these warning signs. Don’t let the hookup culture blind you from red flags! 🚩 Have the important conversations early on. Don’t fall into the trap of temporary pleasures. 💔
P.S. it’s not just Women who do this, but Men do it too. I mention one such example in my video. The only reason why I put “Women” instead of “People Who Put Happiness Over God” is for the algorithm and because when you highlight a specific gender, I notice people pay more attention. My audience is mostly male.
Allow me to say a few words of encouragement to all my Single Brothers and Sisters who ARE Christians, who DO live by Christ’s standards, who ARE in good shape, who put yourself in places to meet people and you still haven’t found someone, you still haven’t met someone who’s marriageable. Just a random message to stay strong.
Part of living by Christ’s standards means obeying his Word the Bible. Many people, including those who claim to be Christians, have given into modern times, they’ve given into sex before marriage, engaging in the hook-up culture. Now, those people are in steady relationships, they’re married, or engaged. They have what you’ve always wanted.
My friends…you cannot compare yourself to those people. As far as I’m concerned, they’ve merely cheated by taking a short-cut. Satan’s designed these short-cuts where, if you abandon God’s scriptures, if you disregard what the Bible says about how you should live your life, you will be rewarded in this world, here and now, sooner than later. (Matt 6:16-34)