This is in response to an amazing video of this twenty-eight-year old Single Woman who seems far more advanced in her Christian faith than I was at her age. But she’s bringing up some interesting points about how the Church communities are failing Single Women.
So, I encourage you to check out her video for the full context, but there were a couple of points I wanted to hit on. Because from the video, I don’t think she’s quite landing on the root cause of her problem.
Every time I watch videos about dating today, I realize just how backwards this whole scene has become.
The above video sparked these thoughts: a guy talking to a therapist who’s giving him dating advice that basically boils down to, “Change who you are, so you can attract the kind of woman you don’t even want.”
Yeah… no thanks.
There’s a bigger conversation here, especially for Christian men who are trying to live right. Not the guys gaming the system or using religion as a loophole. I’m talking about the brothers who genuinely want to do what’s good in God’s eyes and still keep running into walls in the dating world.
The benefit of having gone nearly 20 years before I was able to find a woman worth marrying, is that I have insightful, boots-on-the-ground experience when it comes to today’s Dating Culture.
I’m not saying that one MUST experience something to talk about it…but if you are going to talk about it…and WORSE…talk about it with a sense of Authority as if you KNOW what’s going on with very little research. Be prepared to have people look at you like Leonidas before he kicked that one dude into the pit.
Instead we won’t be screaming, “This is SPARTA!” We’ll be screaming, “THIS IS REALITY!“
If you Google the show, the main criticism you’ll see is that the men of Love is Blind Habibi were supposedly “Toxic, Controlling, and Abusive” towards the women. We have to talk about it.
I had to give this point its own post because it’s a nefarious “high school” peer pressure tactic that’s been going on for years. What’s the tactic?
If you can convince people that something is bad, basically giving it a label like calling it racist, toxic or oppressive, it encourages others to 1) not follow that person’s example, 2) it discredits everything they do, and 3) it prevents others from openly liking/sharing/or commenting about how much they agree because they’re afraid of being labeled a bad person too.
Thus…it makes sense why they’d call the Men “toxic, controlling, and oppressive.” They don’t want other men to do what they did, and they want other women to believe that they’re being oppressed when really, they’re not.
For example, they absolutely hate it when housewives talk about how much pleasure they get from serving their men and taking care of the families over pursuing a career and being “strong and independent”. Let’s talk about it.
After watching Netflix’s “Love is Blind: Habibi”…it’s pretty clear that a lot of bloggers, Feminists, and content creators don’t want American men getting any bright ideas.
Recently, on an awesome post by Jack about the Failure of Christian Dating Sites, a Regular and I got into an interesting discussion about whether it’s a good idea to talk about “God” on the first date.
The Regular’s position was that the first date is not where you want to talk about God, faith, or your Christianity. You should prioritize just having fun and getting to know one another. It should be more light-hearted.
My position was that we should definitely mention God and talk about our first date. Not just because talking about Christ is something I actually enjoy and hoped to find someone who enjoyed it as well. But also because of my intent and priorities.
Is it a deal-breaker if you found out that the guy you liked voted for Trump? Would you break up with him if he didn’t care one way or the other about political issues like Black Lives Matter, Social Justice or Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion?
I agree that a couple should be aligned in their core values for marriage. However, I’m concerned that thanks to Social Media and this Perennial High School Mentality where the “cool kids” are still telling the others what’s cool or not, Women are being shamed against dating the kind of men who are raised to protect and provide for them.
It’s very much like the ladies of England pinning a white feather on men who didn’t enlist to fight in WW I. They didn’t just do this to label those men as cowards, thus shaming men into signing up for a war they really didn’t want to fight in. They also did it to shame all the other women from mating these kinds of men.
We need to talk about how Christian Men are constantly being mocked and rejected by ladies who also claim to be Christians themselves. This is a problem.
By “Christian Men,” I’m not talking about the lukewarm Christians or those who are Christian-in-Name-Only. Those guys are fine. Women love those guys. I’m talking about the true God-fearing, Bible-Practicing Christians.
This essay is inspired by this video where multiple women criticize Christian men for being corny. One woman asked, “Why are Christian Men corny? Why don’t they have swag?”
It’s time we talked about the masculine egos on full display on the Pop the Balloon dating show. It’s so obvious it’s almost cringe. And believe it or not, it’s coming from the least likely of genders.
When it comes to “ego” and conceited behavior, men have been chastised and scolded for decades about it. Since the reboot of James Bond in the 90s, it kept coming up to describe him in which James just shrugs it off.
In “Casino Royale,” there’s a line where Vesper tells James to take the next elevator because there’s not enough room for his ego. *queue the fake laughter
Allow me to conclude this 9-Part Online Dating series by passing down the main lessons I learned to find a beautiful down-to-earth Christian wife after failing in my two priors stints.
In my previous parts, I explained why a man like me had no choice but to go back to the dating apps because the culture ruined the old-school ways in which Men Approached Women. I explained why Dating Apps won’t work for most people, primarily because of egos and an overinflated sense of value.
I explained how I “changed up my strategy” by being my authentic self instead of relying too heavily on Red Pill advice that’s designed to attract the wrong kind of woman. I revealed which Dating Apps gave me the best chances. I divulged my failed matches and how it didn’t work out with some beautiful prospects.
And lastly, I talked about how I attracted and recognized my wife when I found her. It didn’t take years to figure out she was “the one”. It took courage to be open and honest with her, which allowed her to demonstrate the qualities I was looking for in a wife.
So, as I wrap up this series about Online Dating, I just wanted to hit on a few key points to pass down if you were my sister or brother and you’re still looking for a loving, devoted spouse.
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