Recently, Pearl Davis of Red Pill fame published a video called, “Can God Save Modern Women?”
As she began her case, I was surprised to hear about her Christian background. Apparently, she went to a Catholic school and has an extensive Christian upbringing. And yet, she has a lot a criticism when it comes to whether Modern Women are any better in the church.
For those who don’t know, Olympic gold medalist Simone Biles and her NFL husband Jon Owens were in the news for making a lot of ladies upset. Apparently…brace yourselves…Owens thinks that men are the “catch.” And what’s worse! Simone Biles actively pursued him and made the first move! *shock and horror *
This one goes out to all the Christians who are trying to live by Christ’s standards, and they’re asked this question. Especially if you feel like you’re the only one following the rules and getting nowhere for your efforts.
The question relates to what I’m looking for in a mate. The question implies that you will probably never find what you’re looking for because what you want is unrealistic and thus, you need to let go of these standards and get with the times.
Even if you rephrase the question with the warning of, “you know the kind of person you’re looking for is rare, right?” There are still implications. If you don’t follow up with any kind of encouragement, it does suggest that YOU THINK I should look for something else.
I know…a lot of us Christian Men who are looking for wives aren’t having a lot of success being the “Good Men” we were raised to. So, so it’s easy to hear advice from Fresh and Fit or the Whatever Podcast and tell yourself, “Oh…that’s the kind of guy I need to be. Not this chivalrous gentleman opening doors and buying her flowers. I need to make her work for all that!”
Long story short…be yourselves, fellas. If you change/pretend to be someone you’re not just to get the girl, eventually the facade will fade, and she’ll see you for who you are. More importantly, as men, it’s our duty to lead.
Despite the inflammatory title, it is a legit question that I ask with love and kindness. Because I have a great deal of compassion for the ladies of my generation…especially the ones who think “if I don’t have sex with him, I’ll lose him.”
As always, I must disclaim that I’m not talking about ALL women. There are a lot of women who understand what I’m about to say. I’m trying to help those who don’t. Also, it’s to help the Good Men out there, not the Pookies and Ray-Rays who have no intentions of getting married, yet they still expect sex from you.
Because I think this topic is a HUGE reason why a lot of women may find Good Christian men intimidating. They’ll say we’re lame, boring, or that they’re naturally attracted to the bad boys. But in truth, I suspect they’re intimidated by Good Christian Men who live by God’s standards because, without sex, they honestly don’t know what else they can offer a man. Thus, they have little to no power over him. Let’s talk about it.
Here, we have an interview where a 40-year-old woman explains that the reason why she broke up with her Good Man…is because the Sex wasn’t good. This woman claims to be a Christian. The man she was with, claimed to be a Christian. This is a problem.
Ladies and gentlemen, plainly put…all sex outside of marriage is wrong. If you’re engaging in the hook-up culture, if you’re having sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend and you’re not married, you’re indulging in sexual immorality. It’s called fornication. According to 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, the Scriptures tell us that people like this have no place in the Kingdom of Heaven.
In the video, you’ll find around 8:47 mark, that the woman says, “I would literally pray” for the sex to get better. And then she laughs that, “I probably shouldn’t have been praying to God to fix the sex in my non-married relationship.”
Hey gang! This one is just a light-hearted post about some theories I had regarding attraction, what Women say they want versus what they REALLY go for.
I want to make it clear that I could be wrong about EVERYTHING! These are just theories, not conclusions. Long story short, I believe that while a majority of women might SAY to themselves that they want the hot guy, the guy who’s over six feet tall, who’s dressed in a business suit and looks successful.
If that woman walked into a room where she sees the guy she “Claims” she wants, and also an ordinary guy who looks like John Krasinski’s character from “The Office”…even though she wants the Brad, she’s probably going to go for the Office looking guy, because she’s less intimidated by the Office guy who looks easier. By easy, I mean she can feel more relaxed and not worry about impressing him so much. He may end up in the “Friend zone”…or she may just settle for him, giving up on her romantic ambitions.
I have some provocative theories as to why this is happening, especially with my current generation. I also opine that Birth Control might have something to do with it based on a video I watched from Sydney Watson. Harkens back to a fun little essay I wrote about being a “Tall Guy” and never truly realizing that being tall was something desired. Good fun!
Easy…Calm down. This one is just a casual conversation with some thought-provoking theories. I could be right or wrong. Let me know what you think.
A common complaint from a lot of ladies are that most of the Black Single men out there…we’re gay. To be honest, I’m not insulted or offended. To this day, some of my peers often assume that I’m gay because I haven’t had a date in some time. Not to mention, the way I talk, I smile a lot, I used to listen to kpop and Backstreet Boys, etc.
But more than that, I think I know why ladies would rather assume a man must be gay IF he’s not checking for her or approaching her in the gym or at the mall. Long story short, it’s about protecting their ego.