Every time I watch videos about dating today, I realize just how backwards this whole scene has become.
The above video sparked these thoughts: a guy talking to a therapist who’s giving him dating advice that basically boils down to, “Change who you are, so you can attract the kind of woman you don’t even want.”
Yeah… no thanks.
There’s a bigger conversation here, especially for Christian men who are trying to live right. Not the guys gaming the system or using religion as a loophole. I’m talking about the brothers who genuinely want to do what’s good in God’s eyes and still keep running into walls in the dating world.
The benefit of having gone nearly 20 years before I was able to find a woman worth marrying, is that I have insightful, boots-on-the-ground experience when it comes to today’s Dating Culture.
I’m not saying that one MUST experience something to talk about it…but if you are going to talk about it…and WORSE…talk about it with a sense of Authority as if you KNOW what’s going on with very little research. Be prepared to have people look at you like Leonidas before he kicked that one dude into the pit.
Instead we won’t be screaming, “This is SPARTA!” We’ll be screaming, “THIS IS REALITY!“
In my last posts, I talked about the differences between Love is Blind Habibi and its American series. I debunked the claims of how the men are all “toxic and controlling.” It’s all about the power of choice and how some people hate that they’re simply forced to choose.
In my final post on the series, we’re going to examine the top three couples where bloggers absolutely hated the men. And of course, the reason why is because they stand on business. Allow me to explain.
I was going to write a long-winded essay on it (as is my way), but I just saw that Steven Crowder released a video in which he and his panel exposed the truth about our Modern American culture and how much they really hate straight Christian (and usually white) American men.
For those who don’t know, a snippet of a dating show has been made viral (60 million views) because you have a “cool and fun” girl like Riley go up and talk about how she likes to scuba dive and ski and was going to Australia…and yet none of the guys wanted her.
If you Google the show, the main criticism you’ll see is that the men of Love is Blind Habibi were supposedly “Toxic, Controlling, and Abusive” towards the women. We have to talk about it.
I had to give this point its own post because it’s a nefarious “high school” peer pressure tactic that’s been going on for years. What’s the tactic?
If you can convince people that something is bad, basically giving it a label like calling it racist, toxic or oppressive, it encourages others to 1) not follow that person’s example, 2) it discredits everything they do, and 3) it prevents others from openly liking/sharing/or commenting about how much they agree because they’re afraid of being labeled a bad person too.
Thus…it makes sense why they’d call the Men “toxic, controlling, and oppressive.” They don’t want other men to do what they did, and they want other women to believe that they’re being oppressed when really, they’re not.
For example, they absolutely hate it when housewives talk about how much pleasure they get from serving their men and taking care of the families over pursuing a career and being “strong and independent”. Let’s talk about it.
After watching Netflix’s “Love is Blind: Habibi”…it’s pretty clear that a lot of bloggers, Feminists, and content creators don’t want American men getting any bright ideas.
Recently, on an awesome post by Jack about the Failure of Christian Dating Sites, a Regular and I got into an interesting discussion about whether it’s a good idea to talk about “God” on the first date.
The Regular’s position was that the first date is not where you want to talk about God, faith, or your Christianity. You should prioritize just having fun and getting to know one another. It should be more light-hearted.
My position was that we should definitely mention God and talk about our first date. Not just because talking about Christ is something I actually enjoy and hoped to find someone who enjoyed it as well. But also because of my intent and priorities.
Is it a deal-breaker if you found out that the guy you liked voted for Trump? Would you break up with him if he didn’t care one way or the other about political issues like Black Lives Matter, Social Justice or Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion?
I agree that a couple should be aligned in their core values for marriage. However, I’m concerned that thanks to Social Media and this Perennial High School Mentality where the “cool kids” are still telling the others what’s cool or not, Women are being shamed against dating the kind of men who are raised to protect and provide for them.
It’s very much like the ladies of England pinning a white feather on men who didn’t enlist to fight in WW I. They didn’t just do this to label those men as cowards, thus shaming men into signing up for a war they really didn’t want to fight in. They also did it to shame all the other women from mating these kinds of men.
First off, we all know that there are indeed people (black men) out there who deliberately use their platforms and messages to attack, belittle, and degrade black women. We know this. Anyone can pull up a clip and use it as an example. But that’s not what we’re talking about.
Don’t silence these women. Let them speak. Because by their words, they’re proving what men like me have been saying for years. Plainly put, a lot of modern day American women don’t want Godly Bible practicing Christians because women want to be their own gods.
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The Wicked Tactics of Joy Taylor
Here, we have 38-year-old Joy Taylor. She’s a FoxSports Personality who made headlines early this year as part of a bombshell report about her encouraging another woman to get into relationships with men, that way the woman can hang the threat of sexual misconduct over the man’s head to get what she wants.
Stage In The Sky 