Last week, I flew to Colorado to attend my cousin’s graduation. With God on our side, it was definitely one for the books. And honestly…just what I needed.
Ever since she was a baby, my little cousin Allyssa has always been one of the most cherished persons in my life. Sometimes, I don’t even like to refer to her as my “cousin” because she’s something much more.
If you knew that getting married to a stable responsible man gave your child the best possible chances for success in life, would you take it? Even IF your child could succeed without having the married father in the household, why wouldn’t you take this route if you knew it gave your child a better chance?
I’ve already written about Single Mothers who were “Tricked and Lied” to, so I don’t want to rehash that angle. But as many of us know, things will only continue to get worse in this secular society where people turn their back on Biblical wisdom.
In this video, I respond to a clip from a woman who lays out her argument about how men are manipulative and why Single Moms should NOT lower their standards. She says that men don’t come with warning signs saying they “ain’t ish”. I wasn’t offended, mainly because I know she isn’t talking about men like me…but at the same time, I do see a pattern that’s constantly repeating itself.
1. I think too many people are comfortable with the notion of, “You gotta make these horrible mistakes to learn and grow.“…as if it’s impossible to simply heed the advice from the older generation and avoid learning from THEIR mistakes.
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2. The lack of shame. I’m not advocating for people to walk around feeling sorry for themselves. But when you have made a mistake and you’re dealing with the consequences of that mistake…Well, part of the reason why Baby Momma Culture is making waves is because ladies who are having children outside of wedlock are bragging about their mistakes. (Jeremiah 6:15)
This is a problem, especially when you’re a celebrity with a degree of influence because it teaches/encourages others to have no shame in following in your footsteps. I break it down in the video.
Recently, Russia passed laws “banning the distribution of materials promoting homosexuality, pedophilia, and gender reassignment.”
In a speech, Chairman Vyacheslav Volodin said the law would help protect the motherland’s traditions and values for her children and the future of Russia from the “darkness spread by the United States and European states.”
But Russia is the bad guy, right? They got all kinds of problems. They’re mean and wicked and evil, right? They invaded Ukraine! Who cares what they think! Right?
I wasn’t going to make a post about this video I recorded, but after reading one of the responses, I felt I had to dive deeper.
In the Caption, I say “I want to make it clear that I don’t speak for All Black People in this video…at the same time, I hate it when people who have the spotlight…THEY speak for all black people as if we all agree, as if we all feel the same. We don’t.”
As expected, there were a lot of people who saw the title of the video and just jumped to conclusions and posted comments without having actually watched the video. Which is alright. That seems to be the way of things. Not to mention, I think it brings a smirk to the faces of those who did watch the video and know I addressed a point the commenter was trying to make.
The whole point of me doing my videos, or writing my essays with a particular angle is to bring to light an opinion I haven’t seen presented on a greater scale. For instance, I didn’t post anything about the Will Smith slap for months because already I’ve seen it being covered. However, when it comes to the dreaded “N-word” and the controversy surrounding BYU and the Duke Volleyball player…I felt it was time to say something.
Recently, the comedian Aries Spears made some jokes about Lizzo’s weight and appearance. Lizzo and her fans fought back where one of their arguments were, “But he’s fat too!”
As one who used to weigh 378lbs, I believe I have every right to speak on the subject. And I hope you can tell from my tone in the video that I really am coming from a place of love. This isn’t to mock or slight anyone.
Points Discussed:
Can Men Talk about Women’s Bodies? – @1:14
Should You Hate Yourself If You’re Fat – @3:11
My Inspiration to Lose Weight – @5:40
I Tried to Help a Friend Lose Weight – @7:15
Will You Still be Body “Positive” in your 50s? – @10:11
How I Got Up to 378 pounds – @12:01
I Was So Fat I Got Stuck in the Closet – @17:28
How I Felt When I Reached My Weight-loss Goal – @22:29
Expounding on this notion of, “But he’s fat too”…I don’t think I’ve ever respected this argument. I’m talking about the notion of, “You have no right to talk about a subject if you’re failing in the subject too.”
Is it true that Black Men have “abandoned the church”? Clearly, there are still black men going to church. It’s not like you’ll walk into one and NOT see a black guy.
But from watching the pastors on Jason Whitlock’s show and hearing Kevin Samuels over the past few years, there does seem to be this perception that “black men have given up on the churches”. I thought this was strange. And personally, I’d have no way of knowing whether any of this is true…because *chuckles nervously* as a black guy, I don’t go to church.
First off, I want to make it clear that I don’t think churches, religious assemblies, and congregations are bad. I truly believe church and congregations are great and amazing events. The Old Testament taught that God loves assemblies. So, being that I’m a Christian…why don’t I go to one?
The issues I’m going to bring up may be reasons why other men have stopped going and we’re just too embarrassed to admit it. I haven’t seen anyone else address or mention the MAIN reason why I personally don’t go…So here goes…
THE CHURCH HAS CAVED TO MODERN WOKE IDEOLOGY –
Let’s begin by addressing the common reasons I heard about why Black Men have stopped going to the church. Mainly, the sentiment is that the message, the pastors and ministers, have stopped preaching the Truth. Instead, the “Truth” is being watered down to walk lock-step with today’s woke ideologies. And in turn, they’re catering to women, telling women what they want to hear, instead of what the Bible actually says.
For this one, I had to get my thoughts down about Will Smith. I didn’t speak up or publish any essays about the Will Smith/Chris Rock slap when it first happened because everyone was talking about it. But for this, I want to focus on the perspective of young black men “like myself” (not ALL black men) and why we were especially upset/disappointed with Will Smith.
Just a heads up, I’m very critical of Black Culture in this video and I talk about Christianity towards the end.
Long story short…sex sells and until she twerked upside down on a beach, I didn’t even know her name.
I want to make it clear that I don’t condone what she did, but something compelled me to be honest here. I know she’s not into men. I certainly hope she doesn’t get re-elected after this stunt and the response video she made where she basically told people to kick rocks…but this shameful behavior shouldn’t be too surprising.
Seriously, I wouldn’t be surprised if the next president was caught doing lines in the Oval Office. When a society like ours moves away from the Scriptures, yet a lot of them honestly believe that God accepts their bad behavior and they’re proudly doing what God wants them to do…all I can do is shake my head, try to educate others with the truth and just keep on moving, day by day, praying for the strength, patience, and wisdom to endure till the end.
We need to be more judgmental, especially in the Black Community. This fear of “I don’t want to be judgmental” and “it’s not my place to judge” is why a lot of people are simply allowing their friends, family, and associates to descend into failure under the messed up logic of, “that’s they’re life and they’re free to do what they want.”
“But Rock. How is that messed up logic? It’s the truth!”
It’s “messed up logic” because we live in a society. Perhaps I should work on an essay about how everything is Connected: from this thing called “Perception,” such as how Black People are perceived based on the actions and behavior of the black stereotypes the media shows on TV, down to the men and women who are raised in single-parent households who go on to commit crime and drain resources from the government…it’s not just “they’re” life.
If you raise children to be polite, respectful, and hard-working, you are contributing to a good, decent, and moral society. If you think it’s okay for 6-year-olds girls to go twerking and little black boys to curse to hip hop songs that’s all about robbing and treating women like whores…what do you think you’re doing to the society?
I’m not saying we should stop them physically against their will…but call it what it is. And if you’re not going to say something, at the very least, don’t nod along and smile because you’re too afraid of making them feel bad. (hint, they should feel bad)
In the wake of Roe v Wade being overturned by the Supreme Court, many Youtubers were asking their followers (mostly black men) what they think. And sadly…what I’ve been seeing is this notion of “we gotta stay silent.”
This isn’t the first time I’ve heard such sentiments. Comedians have been preaching it to their audiences for years. “When it comes to abortion, we men need to shut the eff up” I believe Chappelle said, which was followed by raucous applause.
This was the comment from a Youtuber on the topic of Roe v Wade being overturned, “I’ve noticed when it comes to black women bodies and their sisterhood it’s best to say quiet fellas . All we can do is wrap it up and avoid a 18-year problem.”
Honestly, after seeing what’s been going on and recognizing the need for Men to actually step up and lead…I had to respond with this: “We can’t stay silent, bro. Unchecked immoral behavior is what’s led to the decline of our culture, society, and the increase of black children being born out of wedlock. We need to speak up. Some women need to be told something other than what stupid ideologues have been feeding them. We need to step up!”