5 comments on “Being Tricked and Lied To: Single-Mothers and Picking the Wrong Guy

  1. So much wisdom here!

    So sad that many guys fall for the “you’re not a real man if you don’t wife me up, raise my kids, and address all my financial problems” nonsense. Run away!!

    Too many women — even self-proclaimed Christians — violate God’s law on both sides of the wedding. They have sex before marriage to “sex-nap” the guys, then they withhold it after marriage to manipulate the men. And the men have no legal recourse. What other contract lets the violator sue the victim and profit financially?!

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  2. As a long term, happily married black woman (and a stepmother whose husband is NOT nor was EVER a stepfather), you said a lot of true things. Blended families are an added stressor. From either direction, even when you weather it well. Very balanced post.

    Next time though, you might consider breaking something this length up into multiple posts.

    Just my .02

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  3. I had a very traumatic childhood which then led me to making many mistakes. 3 baby daddies. It all got so bad that I had to give up my kids because they were severely autistic. Why I chose to have a third I don’t know. That relinquishment hurt me so much, as well as my failed relationships, that combined with my childhood trauma I just simply went crazy. Borderline personality disorder at 26. When I lost my mind I began escorting and this went on for 12 years until COVID made me lose everything. I then started a relationship with a man who ALSO has borderline personality disorder and it was all such a wreck I ended up in the mental hospital. I’d hit rock bottom. Alone, broke and insane. My trauma is valid, but I also believe all my destructive choices had an influence on my mental health as well. I tried therapy and medications for a year but not much change. I’d been saved when I was 12 and went to church until I was 15 and my adoptive parents forbid me from going anymore. I knew God and I knew I needed to go back to Him. Now I’ve been on a healing path for 5 months. Trying to start working full time. Get some certifications. Joined a church, making friends. I’m lucky I still look young and pretty. Still, it’s made people put me on a pedestal I don’t deserve. I’m just a broken person that needs Jesus. That needs healing and to never go back to the destructive sin I was in. If God has someone for me that’s great, but I’m happy just serving the Lord. So many years wasted, He and I have a lot of catching up to do.

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