If you knew that getting married to a stable responsible man gave your child the best possible chances for success in life, would you take it? Even IF your child could succeed without having the married father in the household, why wouldn’t you take this route if you knew it gave your child a better chance?
I’ve already written about Single Mothers who were “Tricked and Lied” to, so I don’t want to rehash that angle. But as many of us know, things will only continue to get worse in this secular society where people turn their back on Biblical wisdom.
In this video, I respond to a clip from a woman who lays out her argument about how men are manipulative and why Single Moms should NOT lower their standards. She says that men don’t come with warning signs saying they “ain’t ish”. I wasn’t offended, mainly because I know she isn’t talking about men like me…but at the same time, I do see a pattern that’s constantly repeating itself.
1. I think too many people are comfortable with the notion of, “You gotta make these horrible mistakes to learn and grow.“…as if it’s impossible to simply heed the advice from the older generation and avoid learning from THEIR mistakes.
2. The lack of shame. I’m not advocating for people to walk around feeling sorry for themselves. But when you have made a mistake and you’re dealing with the consequences of that mistake…Well, part of the reason why Baby Momma Culture is making waves is because ladies who are having children outside of wedlock are bragging about their mistakes. (Jeremiah 6:15)
This is a problem, especially when you’re a celebrity with a degree of influence because it teaches/encourages others to have no shame in following in your footsteps. I break it down in the video.
Shame was something that was a negative reinforcement for certain actions.
People don’t seem to have much of it and when people starting recognizing certain bad things as a flex, (baby collecting), it was done away with.
Its bad where I am from and family structures turn into “weak alliances” real quick.
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I have never been bitten by a venomous snake, but having observed the effects of such a bite on others I have no need to experience it myself to know it’s a bad thing.
The single greatest predictor of juvenile and adult criminality is boys being raised without their biological fathers in the home. This is true across ALL ethnicities and social strata. The problem of violent crime in Black neighborhoods is not a matter of genetic determinism, it is a matter of culturally supported lifestyle choices, specifically baby mamas raising boys without their fathers in the home. As the rate of illegitimacy grows in other ethnicities, so too does the rate of violent crime. The one thing the Black community desperately needs, intact nuclear families, is ironically the thing the “Black Lives Matter” vowed to “disrupt.”
Our social safety net/welfare policies are also at fault, but not in the way social conservatives believe. The specific failure is that for a woman to qualify for assistance (shelter, food, medical care, etc.) she must first kick her children’s father out of the home. She can have a parade of boyfriends coming and going and still receive benefits, but if she is married to her children’s father and they live together she loses all benefits. This is a Satanic inversion of how things should be.
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Agreed 100%! Well said!