Food for Thought

Is the Absent Black Father Really an Issue?

Posted by Rock Kitaro on October 7, 2023
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“What have YOU done to combat fatherlessness?”

Recently, Larry Elder was on a podcast where that question was put to him. And his reaction was surprising, because usually he’s on-point and articulate with giving the obvious answer.

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Does the Bible Make Women Feel Like They’re Insignificant?

Posted by Rock Kitaro on August 25, 2023
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This is inspired by a comment that was left on one of my videos and it really touched my heart. Because I think it speaks to why I’ve seen how some Women claim to want a traditional man who’s virtuous and spiritual…but not religious. 

I can’t help but think what they really mean is, “I want a man who has Christian values and believes in God but will ultimately choose to put my wants and desires over what the Bible says.” 

She commented in my video about the Christian Red Pill. It starts out as just a fun journey where I talk about how I discovered the Red Pill spaces back in 2016, but I conclude it with a lot of strong messages about how the Bible is my ultimate compass and how I call upon Men and Women to repent before it’s too late.  

Amara’s Comment to the video above:  

And this is one reason I don’t like church.  Church and male interpretation of Christianity has always been redpill.  I sat in church for 25 years and heard same crap.  That is why I left I got tired of hearing how insignificant I was as woman and how only important men are. 

I saw that and had to respond with: 

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The “Hot Guy” Intimidation Theory

Posted by Rock Kitaro on August 17, 2023
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Hey gang! This one is just a light-hearted post about some theories I had regarding attraction, what Women say they want versus what they REALLY go for.

I want to make it clear that I could be wrong about EVERYTHING! These are just theories, not conclusions. Long story short, I believe that while a majority of women might SAY to themselves that they want the hot guy, the guy who’s over six feet tall, who’s dressed in a business suit and looks successful.

If that woman walked into a room where she sees the guy she “Claims” she wants, and also an ordinary guy who looks like John Krasinski’s character from “The Office”…even though she wants the Brad, she’s probably going to go for the Office looking guy, because she’s less intimidated by the Office guy who looks easier. By easy, I mean she can feel more relaxed and not worry about impressing him so much. He may end up in the “Friend zone”…or she may just settle for him, giving up on her romantic ambitions.

I have some provocative theories as to why this is happening, especially with my current generation. I also opine that Birth Control might have something to do with it based on a video I watched from Sydney Watson. Harkens back to a fun little essay I wrote about being a “Tall Guy” and never truly realizing that being tall was something desired. Good fun!

Should Christian Parents Let Their Children Decide?

Posted by Rock Kitaro on August 13, 2023
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Recently, the R&B singer Ne-Yo gave an interview where he criticized parents for letting their children determine what gender they are. He asked, “When did parents stop parenting? If you let a kid decide whether he wants to eat sugar all day, he’s going to eat sugar.”

There was some controversy on top of the controversy, because it looked like Ne-Yo put out an apology to the LGBT community…but then Ne-Yo put out a video clarifying his stance on the matter.

Points Discussed:

  • The Men Let this Happen – @1:30
  • Matriarchy in the Black Community – @2:41
  • Affirming a Child’s Gender – @3:36
  • Weak Men Make Terrible Leaders – @5:35
  • Choosing God over the Government – @9:12
  • The Beauty of Two Parents – @10:26
  • Spankings and Corporal Punishment – @12:06
  • Preparing Our Children for a Better World – @14:05

Here…I had some thoughts on the matter, pretty much calling out the elephant in the room. I think that sometimes, a lot of us don’t say anything because we feel like we don’t have a place to say anything. I don’t have children. So, what do I know? Right? Not to mention, the fact that so many companies are pushing the Diversity, Inclusion and Equity Ideology where it can be risky to speak the Truth.

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Black Men are Gay or in Prison? – Why Women Want to Believe This

Posted by Rock Kitaro on August 4, 2023
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Easy…Calm down. This one is just a casual conversation with some thought-provoking theories. I could be right or wrong. Let me know what you think.

A common complaint from a lot of ladies are that most of the Black Single men out there…we’re gay. To be honest, I’m not insulted or offended. To this day, some of my peers often assume that I’m gay because I haven’t had a date in some time. Not to mention, the way I talk, I smile a lot, I used to listen to kpop and Backstreet Boys, etc.

But more than that, I think I know why ladies would rather assume a man must be gay IF he’s not checking for her or approaching her in the gym or at the mall. Long story short, it’s about protecting their ego.

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Black Men are Blamed for the Woman’s Bad Choices?

Posted by Rock Kitaro on July 2, 2023
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Recently, the Daily Rap Up Crew hosted Dr. Umar to discussed culture and relationships within the Black Community. Dr. Umar opines that Black Women have every reason to be angry at Black Men. Let’s talk about it…

Dr. Umar’s Points:

  • Black Men Should Only Be with Black Women
  • Black Women Can’t Talk to African Men the same Way the Talk to American Men
  • Black Men are Responsible for Single Parent Households
  • Black Men are Responsible for the “Poor Selection”
  • Black Men Don’t Provide for the Community

My issue with his points boils down to this. If Black Men are responsible for all that, do we also have the power and authority? Can we force others to do things against their will? Can we drag someone by the scruff of their neck or block them from entering a strip club? Can we go into homes and confiscate all the rap music and take it outside to burn them? Are we allowed to kick down doors and stop unmarried people from having sex?

I take this personally because I see what’s going on in the “Black Community”. We see that it’s getting progressively worse. WE KNOW that the main problem is the lack of families and the epidemic of single-parent households where children aren’t being raised with strong fathers in the household and the subsequent lack of Christianity…but exactly do they expect us to do?

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The Secrets of Hillsong: Hypocrisy, Pride, and Redemption 

Posted by Rock Kitaro on June 4, 2023
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I knew nothing about Hillsong before watching this documentary. That being said, I think I was able to watch it with an open mind with no hard prejudices about prosperity preaching or even the concept of a mega church. I was just curious. What is Hillsong? What happened? Why do so many in the mainstream seem to care? 

Food for thought: If a person preaches the word of God and rely on the Bible for their messaging…but they turn out to be hypocrites not living by the standards they preach, does that mean they’re wrong about what they preached? In this case, is Christianity wrong if the people preaching about Christianity don’t live the way they encourage other people to live? 

According to the documentary, most of Hillsong’s mainstream appeal, especially to a younger audience in a secular society that’s moving away from the Bible, was due to a charismatic, good-looking speaker named Carl Lentz.  

As the face of Hillsong, Carl Lentz had a magnetic gift for oratory. His popularity blossomed due to his association with celebrities like Justin Bieber. He helped Bieber to convert and be Baptized.

However, as is the case with many spiritual leaders, Carl was ensnared by the weakness of the flesh and gave into sexual temptation.  He cheated on his wife with some random woman and even had an affair with his nanny. This is terrible. God knows I hate adultery so much, because I know how grateful people should be to have a loving spouse to begin with (some people don’t have that luxury). 

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Respectfully Disagreeing with other Christians – Baptisms 

Posted by Rock Kitaro on April 1, 2023
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As a Christian…one of the things I like to think I’m good at, is having the ability to converse with other Christians, disagreeing with them, and yet I’m still able to keep it civil and not insult them. We’re likely to walk away more enlightened with a greater understanding of one another. 

This week, I confess I got a little bit heated with this new Church group that I joined this year. It was on the issue of Baptisms and whether or not being Baptized is a requirement for being saved. Meaning, if you’re not Baptized, does this mean you aren’t “saved”? 

This isn’t the first time I disagreed with them on something and it’s not something that would prompt me to say, “I can’t hang with y’all.” We just have different interpretations of the Scriptures. 

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Demonstrating Your Love for God – Lessons from a Funeral

Posted by Rock Kitaro on March 12, 2023
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As many of you know, this year didn’t start off the greatest. One of my most cherished cousins was murdered and if that wasn’t bad enough…the proceeding funeral events were almost as painful. 

When I came back to Tampa, I spent at least two weeks in unimaginable pain and anguish. To cope, I kept telling myself, “Rock, you’re not that important. You’re not that important. You don’t matter. No one cares about you. It’s just you.”  

That’s just a complex I have, where it’s more comfortable to stay nestled in the belief that I’m on my own. Here, you’d have the common response of, “But Rock. People do love you.” But what good is their love if they never express it? How do you benefit from their love and affection if they don’t show or demonstrate it? 

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How Political Scandals and the Weaponization of Women Ruined Dating

Posted by Rock Kitaro on February 16, 2023
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This one gets a bit political. I know it might sound like it’s unrelated to how Millennials date…but ladies and gents, most Millennials are now grown adults in their 30s. We pay attention to what’s happening in the news. If you don’t think the constant sex scandals haven’t played a part in the way we think…you’re sorely mistaken.

Here, I expound on the fifth of eight main points I’ve personally observed to help explain how one thing after another has sabotaged (ruined) my generation. And at the end of each section, I’ll try my best to provide a solution because, I know…these sound like excuses. But I haven’t given up. I still have faith.     

  1. The Hook-Up Culture (Non-Monogamous Dating) 
  2. Tinder (Dating Apps) 
  3. Cat-Calling and False Accusations 
  4. Gynocentrism – The Worship of Women
  5. Brett Kavanaugh and Weaponizing Women 
  6. The Rise of the Manosphere 
  7. The Sisterhood 
  8. Leaving Christianity at the Door 

This entry is a little different than my entry about Cat-Calling and False Accusations in that this one focuses on the bigger picture. It’s about the deliberate attempt to bring down a man and using a woman to do it. What happened with Brett Kavanaugh was just one clear example of many we’ve seen over the years. Aziz Ansari. Chris Hardwick. Tory Lanz. Gervonta Davis. Johnny Depp. It’s not just about the MeToo Movement, it’s not just about false accusations, it’s about how the culture is clearly using Women as a weapon to ruin and take down the men they don’t like.  

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