Recently, on an awesome post by Jack about the Failure of Christian Dating Sites, a Regular and I got into an interesting discussion about whether it’s a good idea to talk about “God” on the first date.
The Regular’s position was that the first date is not where you want to talk about God, faith, or your Christianity. You should prioritize just having fun and getting to know one another. It should be more light-hearted.
My position was that we should definitely mention God and talk about our first date. Not just because talking about Christ is something I actually enjoy and hoped to find someone who enjoyed it as well. But also because of my intent and priorities.
Allow me to conclude this 9-Part Online Dating series by passing down the main lessons I learned to find a beautiful down-to-earth Christian wife after failing in my two priors stints.
In my previous parts, I explained why a man like me had no choice but to go back to the dating apps because the culture ruined the old-school ways in which Men Approached Women. I explained why Dating Apps won’t work for most people, primarily because of egos and an overinflated sense of value.
I explained how I “changed up my strategy” by being my authentic self instead of relying too heavily on Red Pill advice that’s designed to attract the wrong kind of woman. I revealed which Dating Apps gave me the best chances. I divulged my failed matches and how it didn’t work out with some beautiful prospects.
And lastly, I talked about how I attracted and recognized my wife when I found her. It didn’t take years to figure out she was “the one”. It took courage to be open and honest with her, which allowed her to demonstrate the qualities I was looking for in a wife.
So, as I wrap up this series about Online Dating, I just wanted to hit on a few key points to pass down if you were my sister or brother and you’re still looking for a loving, devoted spouse.
Recently, Pearl Davis of Red Pill fame published a video called, “Can God Save Modern Women?”
As she began her case, I was surprised to hear about her Christian background. Apparently, she went to a Catholic school and has an extensive Christian upbringing. And yet, she has a lot a criticism when it comes to whether Modern Women are any better in the church.
This one goes out to all the Christians who are trying to live by Christ’s standards, and they’re asked this question. Especially if you feel like you’re the only one following the rules and getting nowhere for your efforts.
The question relates to what I’m looking for in a mate. The question implies that you will probably never find what you’re looking for because what you want is unrealistic and thus, you need to let go of these standards and get with the times.
Even if you rephrase the question with the warning of, “you know the kind of person you’re looking for is rare, right?” There are still implications. If you don’t follow up with any kind of encouragement, it does suggest that YOU THINK I should look for something else.
Recently, the R&B singer Ne-Yo gave an interview where he criticized parents for letting their children determine what gender they are. He asked, “When did parents stop parenting? If you let a kid decide whether he wants to eat sugar all day, he’s going to eat sugar.”
There was some controversy on top of the controversy, because it looked like Ne-Yo put out an apology to the LGBT community…but then Ne-Yo put out a video clarifying his stance on the matter.
Points Discussed:
The Men Let this Happen – @1:30
Matriarchy in the Black Community – @2:41
Affirming a Child’s Gender – @3:36
Weak Men Make Terrible Leaders – @5:35
Choosing God over the Government – @9:12
The Beauty of Two Parents – @10:26
Spankings and Corporal Punishment – @12:06
Preparing Our Children for a Better World – @14:05
Here…I had some thoughts on the matter, pretty much calling out the elephant in the room. I think that sometimes, a lot of us don’t say anything because we feel like we don’t have a place to say anything. I don’t have children. So, what do I know? Right? Not to mention, the fact that so many companies are pushing the Diversity, Inclusion and Equity Ideology where it can be risky to speak the Truth.
🔥 This is a reaction to a woman who cheated on her husband down in Mexico and had the audacity to say “God sent this man” to help her cheat.
Fellas….FELLAS do not ignore these warning signs. Don’t let the hookup culture blind you from red flags! 🚩 Have the important conversations early on. Don’t fall into the trap of temporary pleasures. 💔
P.S. it’s not just Women who do this, but Men do it too. I mention one such example in my video. The only reason why I put “Women” instead of “People Who Put Happiness Over God” is for the algorithm and because when you highlight a specific gender, I notice people pay more attention. My audience is mostly male.
Is it true that Black Men have “abandoned the church”? Clearly, there are still black men going to church. It’s not like you’ll walk into one and NOT see a black guy.
But from watching the pastors on Jason Whitlock’s show and hearing Kevin Samuels over the past few years, there does seem to be this perception that “black men have given up on the churches”. I thought this was strange. And personally, I’d have no way of knowing whether any of this is true…because *chuckles nervously* as a black guy, I don’t go to church.
First off, I want to make it clear that I don’t think churches, religious assemblies, and congregations are bad. I truly believe church and congregations are great and amazing events. The Old Testament taught that God loves assemblies. So, being that I’m a Christian…why don’t I go to one?
The issues I’m going to bring up may be reasons why other men have stopped going and we’re just too embarrassed to admit it. I haven’t seen anyone else address or mention the MAIN reason why I personally don’t go…So here goes…
THE CHURCH HAS CAVED TO MODERN WOKE IDEOLOGY –
Let’s begin by addressing the common reasons I heard about why Black Men have stopped going to the church. Mainly, the sentiment is that the message, the pastors and ministers, have stopped preaching the Truth. Instead, the “Truth” is being watered down to walk lock-step with today’s woke ideologies. And in turn, they’re catering to women, telling women what they want to hear, instead of what the Bible actually says.
Stage In The Sky 