The benefit of having gone nearly 20 years before I was able to find a woman worth marrying, is that I have insightful, boots-on-the-ground experience when it comes to today’s Dating Culture.
I’m not saying that one MUST experience something to talk about it…but if you are going to talk about it…and WORSE…talk about it with a sense of Authority as if you KNOW what’s going on with very little research. Be prepared to have people look at you like Leonidas before he kicked that one dude into the pit.
Instead we won’t be screaming, “This is SPARTA!” We’ll be screaming, “THIS IS REALITY!“
In my last posts, I talked about the differences between Love is Blind Habibi and its American series. I debunked the claims of how the men are all “toxic and controlling.” It’s all about the power of choice and how some people hate that they’re simply forced to choose.
In my final post on the series, we’re going to examine the top three couples where bloggers absolutely hated the men. And of course, the reason why is because they stand on business. Allow me to explain.
If you Google the show, the main criticism you’ll see is that the men of Love is Blind Habibi were supposedly “Toxic, Controlling, and Abusive” towards the women. We have to talk about it.
I had to give this point its own post because it’s a nefarious “high school” peer pressure tactic that’s been going on for years. What’s the tactic?
If you can convince people that something is bad, basically giving it a label like calling it racist, toxic or oppressive, it encourages others to 1) not follow that person’s example, 2) it discredits everything they do, and 3) it prevents others from openly liking/sharing/or commenting about how much they agree because they’re afraid of being labeled a bad person too.
Thus…it makes sense why they’d call the Men “toxic, controlling, and oppressive.” They don’t want other men to do what they did, and they want other women to believe that they’re being oppressed when really, they’re not.
For example, they absolutely hate it when housewives talk about how much pleasure they get from serving their men and taking care of the families over pursuing a career and being “strong and independent”. Let’s talk about it.
On April 5, 2025, I got married to a woman who I met through the Dating Apps. And at the wedding, one of her invites, a father-figure who I now call, “Mr. Ribs,” kept telling me, “You know what, young man! You found a good wife. And the Bible says, he who finds a good wife, found a good thing and favor with the lord.”
He said this, not once, but about three times…As if I didn’t know. As if I wasn’t already fully aware that I am blessed and found that rare Proverbs 31 woman…as if, it wasn’t until he pointed it out, that I went, “Oh my god…you’re right!”
No, no, no, ladies and gentlemen. I’m not a “throw caution to the wind” kind of guy. I’ve had plenty of opportunities to get with many woman over my 38 years of life, but I chose Julia. Why? Because I recognized she was “wife material”. Allow me to explain…
Just a reminder, with these failed matches posts…this isn’t exactly advice. It’s just the brutally honest look into the world of an average 9-5 Christian man who went looking to find a wife. Some of it is hysterical. But hopefully there are lessons you can gleam.
I used to be just like everyone else who said Dating Apps are a waste of time. I wrote a whole essay about how Tinder and Dating Apps have ruined dating for my generation. But then I had to come to terms with the fact, that a man like me had little choices left.
To begin with, allow me to say that I’m not a dating expert. I’m not a guru or a pick-up artist. You’re reading the words of an average-looking nine-to-five Christian man who’s never been on board with the hook-up culture or all these stupid dating rules the mainstream’s been promoting via music, TV shows, and social media.
Long story short…The dating sites weren’t the problem. I was. In this 8-part series, you’re going to see how I first tried dating apps 10 years ago in 2014 (age 28)…and it wasn’t until last year (2024, age 37) that I finally found a woman worth marrying. Allow me to explain.
Hey gang! This one is just a light-hearted post about some theories I had regarding attraction, what Women say they want versus what they REALLY go for.
I want to make it clear that I could be wrong about EVERYTHING! These are just theories, not conclusions. Long story short, I believe that while a majority of women might SAY to themselves that they want the hot guy, the guy who’s over six feet tall, who’s dressed in a business suit and looks successful.
If that woman walked into a room where she sees the guy she “Claims” she wants, and also an ordinary guy who looks like John Krasinski’s character from “The Office”…even though she wants the Brad, she’s probably going to go for the Office looking guy, because she’s less intimidated by the Office guy who looks easier. By easy, I mean she can feel more relaxed and not worry about impressing him so much. He may end up in the “Friend zone”…or she may just settle for him, giving up on her romantic ambitions.
I have some provocative theories as to why this is happening, especially with my current generation. I also opine that Birth Control might have something to do with it based on a video I watched from Sydney Watson. Harkens back to a fun little essay I wrote about being a “Tall Guy” and never truly realizing that being tall was something desired. Good fun!
Easy…Calm down. This one is just a casual conversation with some thought-provoking theories. I could be right or wrong. Let me know what you think.
A common complaint from a lot of ladies are that most of the Black Single men out there…we’re gay. To be honest, I’m not insulted or offended. To this day, some of my peers often assume that I’m gay because I haven’t had a date in some time. Not to mention, the way I talk, I smile a lot, I used to listen to kpop and Backstreet Boys, etc.
But more than that, I think I know why ladies would rather assume a man must be gay IF he’s not checking for her or approaching her in the gym or at the mall. Long story short, it’s about protecting their ego.
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