Stage In The Sky

The Passport Bros isn’t just a fad. It’s growing. More and more men are fed up with the modern progressive woman, so they’re grabbing their passports and going overseas to find more “good traditional women”. 

That sounds great. I get it. But from what I’m seeing, there’s just one issue that makes me cringe every time I see a video about the Passport Bros and how much “fun” they’re having with their so-called traditional women in places like Thailand, Brazil, or Colombia…are those ladies really “traditional”? Do these men really want “traditional” women? Or are they seeking something else? 

For those who don’t know, the Passport Bros began as a few select men started making posts about their travels overseas where they’ve met women who they felt were far more pleasant than the stereotypical western American woman. They believed that by seeking out foreign women, they can find a more authentic, fulfilling, and harmonious relationship. 

They say that ladies overseas are friendlier and easier to deal with as opposed to the argumentative, feminist fed ladies who insist on taking over the traditional roles of men in the relationship. They say that all modern women seem to care about is what you can give them. That they never love you for you, but only what you can provide. Of course, I don’t personally believe that’s true for ALL women. But I can certainly see why that perception exists. 

One of the first popular guys to promote the Passport Bros is Austin Hollerman. He posted videos like this on Tiktok that racked up millions of views. (caution, he curses) 

A lot of what Austin complains about in his video…yeah, I kinda agree with. Especially this notion of game: “waiting 10 days to text her” or “making it seem like you got a lot of options”…I don’t do that. 

I’m straight forward and honest. Every girlfriend I’ve asked out, I asked them to be my girlfriend within days of just meeting them and they said yes. I text to let you know that I’m just thinking about you. I want to hear about your day. I want you to be soft and affectionate around me. And if that scares you, if you think that it makes me look weak, desperate, or like a simp, if you like playing games or playing hard to get because you want someone to WORK for you…sorry, but I’m gone. Not because I don’t think you’re worth it. I just have more important things/responsibilities to focus on than a woman I barely know. 

That’s why a lot of guys have started saying, “we’re looking for a woman to be our peace”. Because some women have bought into this notion that it’s GOOD to challenge us.  

“So, what Rock. You’re looking for someone who’s not going to challenge you? You just don’t want to be challenged?” 

I’m just gonna paste the definition here and “challenge” you to ask yourself, “Why in the hell would a man who’s working hard and grinding all day, would want to come home and be challenged by his wife?” 

I remember seeing this video of a guy who found a woman in Thailand and man…it really made me want to eat my heart out the way she was 1) beautiful and in shape, 2) catered to and served her man, and 3) maintained a pleasant, sweet, and feminine attitude.  

More and more men started posting videos, encouraging others to give up on American women if they seek a traditional marriage. It’s a counterculture to the attitude of “I don’t need no man, we merely want you.” The “Strong and Independent” mantra. The “you shouldn’t care what a man wants” personalities that seem to dominate certain cultures here in America. According to the Passport Bros, women in other countries were raised on how to treat a man. 

“Well, do Men know how to treat women?” 

That’s the thing…ever since I was a kid, from my parents to TV shows, books, and movies, from superheroes to knights in shining armor, we were taught how we should treat women with extra love and kindness. We were taught to hold open doors. To compliment them. To treat them like a lady with class and respect. It was drilled in us. Which is why, oddly enough, a lot of us struggled when we became adults and found that a lot of these things are frowned upon by a lot of ladies today. 

I’ve talked about this video before where you can see a stark difference between Latino and Black culture on how the women were raised.  All that said, I understand the criticism the Passport Bros seem to get from women. It’s an insulting thing to tell an entire group of women that “we don’t want to deal with you, so we’re going to find women somewhere else.” To which, I’d say…Well, I honestly have a lot of thoughts on that.  

1. If you’re insulted that men don’t want the progressive, modern woman that seems to describe who you are, you have a choice. You could either change who you are to be more appealing to those men. Or accept who you are and look for men who accept you too. 

2. You should be glad that these men are leaving you alone, seeing as how they must be egotistical and misogynists, right? You don’t want that. 

3. The Passport Bros are just a tiny group. Even if they are reaching other men, I suspect most men won’t have the drive to get up and actually act on what they want. So instead of focusing on these men who have already left, why don’t you focus on the neighborhoods of men who are available to you? 

And lastly, I’ll never forget an overweight unsightly black lady trying to shame Passport Bros with this logic. She claimed, “Y’all black men going overseas to find wives, but they can’t do nothing for y’all. Those foreign women don’t know y’all the way we black women do. They don’t know what y’all want.” 

To which I’d respond with, “So wait, you mean to tell me you know what we want…you just don’t want to give it to us?” It reminds me of what Andrew Tate said here: 

Because that seems to be the insult a lot of men feel, where women KNOW that we desire kind, compassionate, affectionate women who cater to us, who serve us as loving helpmates…they just refuse to be that. In fact, they get mad when they hear about their other married female friends who treat their husbands like kings. They say those women are doing too much. 

“But what about what Women want? Don’t you think it’s insulting that Men know what we want but refuse to give us that?” 

What if what you want goes against how God calls us to live? If we have to choose between what you want and what God says…isn’t it right for us to choose what God says on the matter? As I mentioned in my essay about Hillsong, Feminism has done some great things in terms of promoting equality under the law. But it conflicts when it comes to the roles God designed for men and women. I’ll touch on that in a minute. 

Alright…all that said, I do have some pushback on the Passport Bros movement. Because quite frankly, I’m getting tired of seeing videos like this one, where men are advertising this lifestyle, but there’s just one problem. Are they really traditional women? And are the men acting like traditional men? 

Think about it, what do you mean when you say you want a “traditional wife” or a “traditional woman”? What makes her traditional? What values does she have. Is it really all about acting like whatever perception we have of the girly-girl stereotype, the soft spoken, couldn’t hurt a fly woman? 

My problem with the Passport Bros is the same that I see from a lot of ladies who want the benefits of being in a marriage without the conditions of it. Anyone who preaches that you should go overseas because the women are a lot more fun and easy…unless you marry them, you’re promoting a sinful lifestyle. 

Because let’s be honest. In that video above where the man’s frolicking with the hot girl from Brazil, do you think they’re waiting until marriage to have sex? In the video of the guy from Thailand, where the woman’s folding his clothes and cooking his meals for him…do you think they’re married? If they aren’t, guess what fellas…that’s not traditional.  

“Hold up, Rock…there’s a difference between Traditional and Biblical.” 

Is there? Where do you think the traditional roles of men and women come from? Why do Men think they should be the head of their households, or that their wives should be submissive helpmates? Just because Kevin Samuels said so? No.  

As this blog puts it: God requires that most men go out and work hard to provide food, shelter, and clothing for themselves and their families (2 Thessalonians 3:10-12).  

God’s Word is very clear that Christian men must be neither effeminate, nor homosexual, nor guilty of any other brand of immorality (Leviticus 18:22; 20:13; Romans 1:26-27; I Corinthians 6:9; 11:14). A Christian man must be masculine, the husband of one wife (I Timothy 3:2; Titus 1:6), while at the same time being gentle and striving to be an example of all of the fruits of God’s Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23; Ephesians 5:9). 

That being said, the Traditional Roles of Women are clear as well. Titus 2:3-5 “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” 

Those roles of traditional men and women come from the Bible and a lot of our frustrations as a society, from both men and women, comes from our unwillingness to submit to God’s words. It comes from our arrogance of thinking we know better than God. From thinking that Christianity is a step behind, and that it needs to change to accommodate us. I’d even argue that it frustrates a lot of Men who claim to want traditional wives, but they don’t even understand why because they haven’t read the Scriptures. 

Yes, historically, it does make sense to think that the roles of men and women come from the fact that men are generally stronger, more durable. Women are the fairer sex and technically, more valuable since, once they conceive, they’re out of commission for nine months while a single man can impregnate an entire village in less than a few weeks. 

Even back then, sexual immorality ran rampant from the likes of Casanova to the orgies of Rome, etc. But let’s be honest fellas, the same crap you’d give a woman like Brittany Renner is the same crap you’d give any woman who was caught in one of those orgies, or the women who’s been “ran through” by libertines like Casanova. 

You’re not looking for women like that. You’re looking for a beautiful loyal woman who you can bring home to the family, who can help raise your children to be respectable adults.  

When you engage in the hook-up culture, premarital sex, and all the like, you’re promoting the same deviant behaviors that led to things like the Sexual Revolution and the Feminist movement which ultimately led us to the same outcome we currently have in America. And maybe that’s just your way. Selfish. Thinking only of yourself. Either way, it’s not good.  

Sexual immorality is wrong. All sex outside of marriage is sinful. Telling yourself, it’s no big deal. We’re two consenting adults. God will forgive me. I’m young and stupid. It’s to be expected…you’re playing with fire. There will be consequences to engaging in such wicked behavior. It may seem like all fun and games now, but God sees everything. Psalms 73 warns that those who appear to be having all kinds of fun and living it up will get what’s coming to them for rejecting the instructions of God. 

I get the appeal of seeking a traditional woman. I really do. While I’m not a Passport Bro myself, because I do believe there are still good Christian women here in America who were raised to be wives instead of strong and independent, I can’t deny that the mass appeal, the general sentiment appears to have made most of my generation non-traditional.  

Bottom line, seeking a wife overseas appears to give you a better/faster chance of finding that traditional wife than simply staying in your secular city and hoping one day you 1) come across her, 2) find her attractive, 3) she finds you attractive, 4) find that she’s single with no children, and 5) opportunity brings you together.  

But if you DO go overseas to find that traditional woman…I encourage you to do as the Bible commands and HONOR her. Reward her for being the kind nurturing helpmate that she is by protecting her with a matrimonial vow to stay married to her for the rest of your lives.  

And if she doesn’t want you unless you give in and have sex before marriage, she’s not the one for you. I know…it’s tough. But that’s what it means to choose God over this world. To deny yourself. I encourage everyone to ask for the strength and discipline to resist this world. Because once upon a time, a man sacrificed himself and was nailed to a cross for us. Never forget.