In 2024…we need to let go of this fear of being called “Judgmental.” It’s making Christians look bad. It’s giving Atheists and Agnostics good reasons to reject Christ. And it’s enabling those who think they’re Christians to let go of their fear of disobeying God.
This will be the first of four posts where I reveal the “Real Reasons Why Christians Hate Being Judged.” For this post…we’re going to talk about how my generation’s indoctrination with the belief that we’re all equals and the same…it’s created an ego and a sense of entitlement.
Those who are quick to call Christians judgmental think they’re doing a good service by putting the “self-righteous” ones in their place, but is that where their focus should be?
The self-righteous may be overzealous, overbearing, and annoying, but if they believe in Christ and strive to live by Christ’s standards, they are saved.
Now ask yourself, of the Christians who are so quick to tell you “hey, don’t judge!”…how many of those same Christians are quick to call out the Christians who are clearly indulging in immoral lifestyles and sinful behavior? They’d rather silence you but say nothing about the ones engaging in the hook-up culture, doing drugs, getting drunk, attending events that celebrate things like Pride. Don’t you find that a bit odd?
I think I know why this is happening. So badly, they want to be loved and accepted by humans and this world so much, that in the spiritual battle, they’ll cross lines and attack God to prove their loyalty to the world.
Even if you want to stand on the logic of, “Well, I don’t want to offend people or hurt their feelings” by calling out what the Bible says on the matter, you’re still doing more harm than good because by saying you “accept them” you’re encouraging them as they march headlong off a cliff when you should be working to steer them to salvation!
Here, people like to throw out how Jesus ate with sinners. They use this to demonstrate how Christ was accepting of everyone. They’re wrong. In Matthew 9:10-17, Jesus uses the illustration of a physician (doctor) seeking out the sick. The healthy ones don’t need a doctor to get better. The sick ones do.
Thus, he sought out the sinners not to show acceptance of their behavior and lifestyles, but to help them get better. Is that what you’re doing, when you go to pride events or parties where people are looking to get drunk and hook up?
“But, Rock. We’re all sinners.”
True, but you know what I’m talking about. There’s sinning as in, I made a mistake and I’m going to do my best to do that again. And then there are sinful lifestyles where the person/people not only embrace their sinful actions, but they celebrate it, continue to indulge in it, and they see nothing wrong with it.
“Well, maybe the reason why people don’t like hanging around Christians like you is because they want to go somewhere where they feel accepted. It doesn’t feel good to be with someone who acts like they don’t accept you, as if they don’t measure up to some standard you think they should live by. That’s why these Christians don’t like the ones who act like they’re “holier than thou.”
Those are good points. Let’s talk about it.
How Equality and Acceptance Created Your Ego –
First off…I need you to be aware of how much this world has indoctrinated my generation to believe in and prioritize two things. Acceptance and Equality. By Acceptance, we’re talking about this need to be welcomed and loved for who you are and what you do, no matter who you are and what you do.
I’m not saying people have never wanted to be accepted. I am saying, it’s relatively new that people feel entitled to it. Because that infringes on everyone else’s personal constitution, their freedom to choose whether or not they like who you are.
And by Equality, we’re not talking about fairness or justice…we’re talking about the same. As I wrote in my Simone Biles essay, people are obsessed with this notion that we’re all the same and equals, when the truth is, we’re not. Simone Biles is a gold medalist. She was judged to be better than all she went up against. She was not their equal.
Even modernized Christians try to prioritize the notion of “equal” in things like our roles as men and women, or husband and wives. They hate the idea of being inferior. And they’ve been led to believe that being a follower or submissive is the inferior role.
In Matthew 6:24-26 Jesus teaches that you can’t serve two masters. You cannot serve God and the World. You will either hate the one and love the other. The World teaches Equality and Acceptance. The Bible, believe it or not, discriminates and tells us the Kingdom of Heaven will not have certain behaviors and lifestyles.
And here’s where the World has tricked you, here’s where your own principles fail you. Let’s say you stand on the grounds of Tolerance and Acceptance. Let’s say, you stand by your beliefs that everyone should be who they are and still be loved and accepted no matter what.
Do you keep that same energy when you encounter racists? Or misogynists? Or those who tend to vote for a particular party? Do you accept it when old men in their 60s date women in their 20s?
Or…could it be that you pick and choose which lifestyles you accept based on how you feel? (Proverbs 3:5) And when you have an entire generation doing this, it leaves them vulnerable to the influence of popular opinion. You’ve left yourself wide open to worship humans instead of God.
I think the reason why so many are more comfortable worshiping humans than God is because, plainly put, they love their sin. The world is telling you what you want to hear (2 Timothy 4:3). If you’ve been influenced to prioritize money, sex, fame, and fun…while they Bible preaches modesty, celibacy, and repentance, it makes sense why Jesus said you’ll love one master and hate the other.
My friends, I don’t tell you all this for gloom and doom. I just hate that you’re being lied to. As Christians, it’s our duty to reach out and try to pull you into the lifeboats of salvation.
I personally know a woman who transitioned to a man over the course of a decade. When I first met her in 2011, she was beautiful. She may have already been a lesbian back then, but she was clearly a woman.
As the years went by and the LGBTQ movement gained steamed, she was emboldened by the preachings of the world to cast off the person God made her to be. And I saw…I witnessed as those around her encouraged and prodded her on. I saw as the company and corporations emboldened her, waving a 50-foot pride flag from one of the walkways.
In 2016, she ran into me in the hallway. It had been a while since we last talked one on one, so she asked me how I’d been. I told her, “Well…I’ve changed. I’ve read the entire Bible from cover to cover and I believe in it. I strive to put God first and committed my life as a Christian.”
It was honestly a bit awkward because I knew her lifestyle and it brought me no pleasure to proclaim my allegiance to a belief that opposed hers. That’s the truth. I cared about this woman. I didn’t want to offend her or make her sad, so I understand the Christians who are afraid to come off as “judgmental”. I didn’t want her walking away thinking I didn’t love her as a person. I did.
And it was out of love that I told her the truth. She responded with, “Well, I’m Christian too, so that’s great.”
And when she said that, I didn’t think. “No, you’re not really a Christian.” I thought to myself, “That’s great. You must be on your Christian journey and you still some got some ways to go.”
“Well, Rock. We all got some ways to go!”
No. Stop…stop right there. This is what I’m talking about. This need to think we’re all the same, we’re all on the same level, and we all got the same problems. We are different and some people need more help than others. When you try to treat everyone the same, you neglect those who need help the most.
If you have two kids, one’s making B’s and the other’s failing with F’s, who would you logically pour more attention to?
This Christian lesbian…since that conversation in the hallway back in 2016, she went on to marry her girlfriend. She invited almost half the department but not me, despite knowing me the longest. In the last 3 years she started her transition. And just this past week, a friend told me that they ran into her and sure enough, she removed her breasts, now has a beard and a mustache and looks like a man.
“Well, Rock, it’s her decision.”
Am I not allowed to feel sad? Or disappointed?
“See! It’s that right there. That’s why we hate you Christians who think you’re holier than thou. Because you refuse to accept that it’s her decision. You refuse to…”
Enough…We all want what’s best for our friends and family. And again, while you’re so quick to chastise me for my very reasonable disappointment, do you have any words for her? Or is it just, “You go girl? Live your best life?”
Christ told us that the greatest commandment, the NUMBER ONE commandment we should be striving for is to love Jehovah your god with your whole heart, soul, and mind. If God sees something as an abomination, and you tell people it’s okay and encourage them to keep doing that thing…are you obeying this commandment?
Again, I get it! It’s not great to hurt people’s feelings. It feels good to be loved and accepted. You’re reading the words of someone who’s almost always alone. I cherish every single moment when I’m with people who love and accept me because it doesn’t happen every day, and the last thing I want to do is say something that will push them away. But I will if I have to, especially if helps them get better.
If I reacted with, “Wow, friend. That’s so cool that you’re a lesbian and about to get married!” I probably would’ve been invited to her wedding, cavorting with friends, and co-workers and having a good time as normal people do. But I didn’t.
I remember last year, standing next to a close family member when she heard one of our cousins claim to be bi-sexual. And when the cousin said this, my family member praised her in the heat of the moment, saying, “Oh, that’s cool!”
Nope. It’s not cool. I’m sure the family member didn’t really think it was cool either, but she, like so many are conditioned to want to make people feel good, that we end up enabling them. And because I’m not, they look at me as if I’m holier than thou.
Another example, just recently, one of my bosses bragged about the late Kevin Samuels and the woman he was sleeping with before he died. He showed me a picture of the woman and said, “Dang! Kevin did good.”
And my reaction was this uneasy smile as I said, “Yeah, but he shouldn’t have been doing that. You know…they weren’t married.”
My boss said, “So? Oh, wait. Yeah, you’re right.”
I brought up that example to illustrate that I’m not just talking crap. I’m not criticizing others while failing to live up to the same standard. It isn’t easy. Satan’s made it extremely difficult. But by your actions, you demonstrate your faith.
And no, this doesn’t mean I call out every bad thing I see. When I heard my cousin was bi-sexual, I didn’t scold her right there on the spot. I can still smile and be happy to see her without celebrating her lifestyle. But if she asks, if she wants to draw close to me…with love, I’ll tell her what I think.
Stage In The Sky 