This one goes out to all the Christians who are trying to live by Christ’s standards, and they’re asked this question. Especially if you feel like you’re the only one following the rules and getting nowhere for your efforts.
The question relates to what I’m looking for in a mate. The question implies that you will probably never find what you’re looking for because what you want is unrealistic and thus, you need to let go of these standards and get with the times.
Even if you rephrase the question with the warning of, “you know the kind of person you’re looking for is rare, right?” There are still implications. If you don’t follow up with any kind of encouragement, it does suggest that YOU THINK I should look for something else.
I know…a lot of us Christian Men who are looking for wives aren’t having a lot of success being the “Good Men” we were raised to. So, so it’s easy to hear advice from Fresh and Fit or the Whatever Podcast and tell yourself, “Oh…that’s the kind of guy I need to be. Not this chivalrous gentleman opening doors and buying her flowers. I need to make her work for all that!”
Long story short…be yourselves, fellas. If you change/pretend to be someone you’re not just to get the girl, eventually the facade will fade, and she’ll see you for who you are. More importantly, as men, it’s our duty to lead.
Here, we have an interview where a 40-year-old woman explains that the reason why she broke up with her Good Man…is because the Sex wasn’t good. This woman claims to be a Christian. The man she was with, claimed to be a Christian. This is a problem.
Ladies and gentlemen, plainly put…all sex outside of marriage is wrong. If you’re engaging in the hook-up culture, if you’re having sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend and you’re not married, you’re indulging in sexual immorality. It’s called fornication. According to 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, the Scriptures tell us that people like this have no place in the Kingdom of Heaven.
In the video, you’ll find around 8:47 mark, that the woman says, “I would literally pray” for the sex to get better. And then she laughs that, “I probably shouldn’t have been praying to God to fix the sex in my non-married relationship.”
When did it become cool and hip to harass and persecute Jewish people again? You could say, “it’s not about a hatred for Jews, it’s about the liberation of Palestine.”…is that the truth?
I was working on October 7th when I saw the headlines go up, that young men and women attending a music festival were attacked and killed. I didn’t know who was attacking them. Only that they were attacked. Militants parachuted down and began shooting indiscriminately.
Hundreds were taken hostage. Some women were raped, stripped naked, and paraded on the back of trucks while people spat on them. That was someone’s daughter. Someone’s sister. Someone’s cousin.
From that alone…one would think that whoever’s responsible should be hunted down and brought to justice, right? One would think that we can all agree killing innocent women and children is wrong, right?
“Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.” – 1 John 2:15
“If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.” – John 15:19
Yesterday (Tuesday Oct 10, 2023), a 60-year-old co-worker I’ve known for years…she’s someone I enjoy teasing and is almost like a mother figure to me. She said, “Rock, you’re so contradicting. You’re supposed to be this Christian, but it seems like you really don’t like people.”
She said this upon hearing how I am in my boxing class. I pick the heavy bag that’s away from everyone else with my back turned to others so it’s easier for me to focus and not worry about what everyone else is doing. She also knows that I don’t like crowds or social events where all you do is just socialize.
I explained, “I love and care about people as Christ tells us, but…it’s not that I hate people. It’s just disappointing. It’d be like if my brother was a thief who robs and steals. I still love my brother, but I’d be disappointed with him. It’d probably bother me if I hung out with him and all he did was brag about his things…things I know he bought with stolen money.”
This is inspired by a comment that was left on one of my videos and it really touched my heart. Because I think it speaks to why I’ve seen how some Women claim to want a traditional man who’s virtuous and spiritual…but not religious.
I can’t help but think what they really mean is, “I want a man who has Christian values and believes in God but will ultimately choose to put my wants and desires over what the Bible says.”
She commented in my video about the Christian Red Pill. It starts out as just a fun journey where I talk about how I discovered the Red Pill spaces back in 2016, but I conclude it with a lot of strong messages about how the Bible is my ultimate compass and how I call upon Men and Women to repent before it’s too late.
Amara’s Comment to the video above:
And this is one reason I don’t like church. Church and male interpretation of Christianity has always been redpill. I sat in church for 25 years and heard same crap. That is why I left I got tired of hearing how insignificant I was as woman and how only important men are.
Last night, I went to dinner with the leader of the church group under the pretense that he wanted to discuss a question I asked. Things didn’t go so great…
Allow me to begin by laying out the sentiments of Romans Chapter 14. If you read that chapter, the jest of it is how Christians shouldn’t be quarreling over these differences of opinions when it comes to our faith or belief.
Verse 13 says, “Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother.”
What I love about that chapter is that 1) it takes the pressure off of you stronger Christians when it comes to trying so hard to make another Christian believe the way you believe. And 2) it should reduce/eliminate arguments between us as humans since the main person we need to answer to is God.
Last night, I got into a debate with an older woman about waiting till marriage to have sex. I told her about the peer pressure I faced and she sided with my old friends who encouraged me to have sex before marriage, saying, “well, I think they’re speaking to you from a place of practicality and common sense.”
Before I begin, allow me to make some points about faith. What is faith? People have written whole books about it, but for this essay, I want to focus on this notion. “Faith is having a “belief in something not yet seen.” (Hebrew 11:1)” Faith is believing in something that hasn’t happened yet. It’s believing in something that has happened, but you weren’t there to see it for yourself.
Alright…let’s begin.
The older woman I conversed with is a 60-something year old widow I befriended at the gym last year. We’ll call her, Stella. Stella seems to have a good heart. She lost her husband about three years ago. We text from time to time, keeping each other’s spirits up. And while she does claim to be Christian, we’ve had several conversations where it’s made clear that she’s very liberal and loose with her Christianity.
I knew nothing about Hillsong before watching this documentary. That being said, I think I was able to watch it with an open mind with no hard prejudices about prosperity preaching or even the concept of a mega church. I was just curious. What is Hillsong? What happened? Why do so many in the mainstream seem to care?
Food for thought: If a person preaches the word of God and rely on the Bible for their messaging…but they turn out to be hypocrites not living by the standards they preach, does that mean they’re wrong about what they preached? In this case, is Christianity wrong if the people preaching about Christianity don’t live the way they encourage other people to live?
According to the documentary, most of Hillsong’s mainstream appeal, especially to a younger audience in a secular society that’s moving away from the Bible, was due to a charismatic, good-looking speaker named Carl Lentz.
As the face of Hillsong, Carl Lentz had a magnetic gift for oratory. His popularity blossomed due to his association with celebrities like Justin Bieber. He helped Bieber to convert and be Baptized.
However, as is the case with many spiritual leaders, Carl was ensnared by the weakness of the flesh and gave into sexual temptation. He cheated on his wife with some random woman and even had an affair with his nanny. This is terrible. God knows I hate adultery so much, because I know how grateful people should be to have a loving spouse to begin with (some people don’t have that luxury).
On April 4th 2023, I went to a Jehovah’s Witness Memorial Service for Jesus Christ and something unexpected happened. I suffered some kind of emotional or mental breakdown and had to leave before it ended. I felt wretched and rotten, guilty and unworthy. And ironically, I believe it all stemmed from this lifelong criticism of being called “Arrogant.”
Modesty is not one of my strong points. I get it. It’s kinda like how I’ve been told I’m too “Judgmental”. However, with that, I am truly judgmental. I embrace it. I can accept and defend it.
But Arrogance…How can I justify that? The Bible’s constantly talking about the virtues of being meek and humble. It warns about pride and haughtiness. Jesus himself said that “the greatest among you shall be your servant.” And that whoever humbles himself like a child shall be the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven.
So, if they are correct in their assessment…what do I do? How do I change? Do I even want to change?
Here’s what I’m going to do. First, I’m going to explain what happened that night during the Memorial Service. Then, I’m gonna dive deep into why I’m clearly so insufferably arrogant.