This is an awesome video aimed at modern day churches and pastors who have no problem telling men to step up and be better…and yet they shirk from telling Women what they should be doing…because they’re already awesome the way they are.
Before I begin, I want to emphasize the key crux of my argument. For over seven years, this has been my huge point when it comes to being followers of Christ and truly repenting to live as the Bible calls us to live.
If Men are constantly told by Society (celebrities, commercials, Movies, TV shows, and politicians) that they need to get better, while Women are given the message of “you’re good the way you are”…between Men and Women who is the most likely to actually work on getting better?
Think about that for a second.
Let’s say you have a little girl and a little boy. If you’re trying to prepare them to be productive members of society, but you pour all your focus on encouraging boys to be “better” but you tell the little girls that they’re “good the way they are”…who’s going to be better equipped to grow up and thrive?
If a boy and a girl brings home a report cards where both of them get B’s. But you only scold and punish the Boy to work hard and improve while praising the Girl for her B’s…who’s more likely to work hard and get A’s?
As Christians, my bruthas and sistahs…if Pastors and Churches continually scold men for their lust, to step up in their responsibilities as leaders, to be slow to anger, generous, and forgiving, but we avoid telling women how they’re called to be pure, self-controlled, kind, silent in the church (not preachers over men) and submissive to their husbands…who’s likely to be the more Bible practicing Christian?
“Well, what if Women don’t need be scolded? What if Women actually improve by praising them because it’ll encourage them to work hard to get more praise?”
Is that what you’re seeing? Are you saying that Men don’t thrive on praise? That if we get praise, we’re more likely to do worse?
I think we all know that’s nonsense. If you don’t believe me, I encourage you to check out this video below because it’s another one that’s racked up over 300k views and sheds a light on how badly Millennial Women are struggling, not just in the secular sense, but spiritually as well.
Furthermore…this isn’t about us wanting to see Women scolded just because we as Men are scolded. This is a real problem that too many are either oblivious to, or they just don’t want to believe it.
I know. I grew up the same way, taught to believe that Men are the main problem because we make up most of the prisons and violent crimes while women are mostly innocent, wanting to do the right thing, more compassionate, sympathetic, kind, and supportive.
But times have changed and things are out of control.
At 12 minutes in, the man in the main video said that people tend to look at the more external aesthetics in judging who’s more “on fire” for the lord. A pastor might deem that the female Christians in church are more on fire while Men are more “meh”…but that’s only based on how things “look”.
He makes a good point in saying that Pastors are judging based on how the women respond to “them as pastors,” not necessarily to the Lord.
Between men and women, Women care more about how they “look”. Meaning, they have the appearance of being more passionate, hands raised, jumping around, note taking and stuff like that.
Whereas Men don’t care about the “performatives” as much. We care about getting stuff done that matters.
No lie, at the church we go to, there’s one woman in the Church’s worship team who’s always like 110% while she’s on-stage dancing and singing to the songs. And don’t get me wrong, she has a beautiful voice. But her performance is so over-the-top that it’s almost cringe and distracting from the message of song…not just to me, but my wife.
One point he mentioned, was how a Pastor implied that the main problem of Christian Women is that they need to “show up” and stop holding back their “awesomeness”.
Pretty vague stuff, clearly not wanting to offend.
And it’s that fear of offending Women that’s really hurting them, if we’re to be honest.
Why are they afraid of offending women? Plenty of reasons. You don’t want to be accused of sexism or misogyny. Somehow, the culture tricked us into thinking the Patriarchy is evil. You don’t want to lose your parishioners and the money they bring in from tithing.
And of course, you don’t want to lose access to a woman’s love and affection, or ultimately the prevention of passing down your own legacy by having a child because some women reject Men who don’t acquiesce to their Feminist Ideals.
Furthermore, we’ve let the mainstream culture trick us into thinking any kind of criticism and rebuke is hate speech, when for generations, we all know that sometimes love looks like hate.
When parents discipline us, it looks like hate. But they’re trying to teach us to save our lives, to instill in us discipline, work ethic, and the duty to do the right thing even when nobody’s looking.
My wife and I are going through “The Chosen” right now, and while we are starting to enjoy it…we can’t help but notice how almost every woman in the show has remarkable faith from the get-go, while the men are the ones mostly doubting, struggling, and asking questions of disbelief.
Even with Mary Magdalene, who suffers from demons before Jesus heals her…after she’s healed, she seems to immediately have all the answers, as if she’s been following Jesus for decades.
I’m not saying that’s good or bad. But I do believe these “creative choices” reflect the current state of the church that our main video points out.
Sad to say, even the church my wife and I are currently attending…I’ve made it a point to check out the live feed that they broadcast on Youtube. If I see there’s a woman preaching for the main sermon…we stay home.
That’s exactly what we did last Sunday. Instead of going to church, my wife and I had our own Bible study where we read one of my own published essays (which are sermons in of itself) and found greater fulfillment in that.
I told my wife, “I want to believe that maybe this church is doing it because they honestly have an earnest interpretation of the Scriptures and not because they’re deliberately rejecting what the Bible says about female pastors”.
But either way, we can’t “control” others. We can only control ourselves and what we choose to do.
Alright. I’m going to keep this short. I’m sure there’s about another dozen things I can comment on in the video, but I don’t want it to take away from my main point.
Ladies and gentlemen…are we really helping women by refraining from teaching them the truth? Remember the words of Proverbs 27:5. Open rebuke is better than concealed love.
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