Ladies are asking questions about men. They’re struggling to find true love, so they want to know what’s happening. What’s wrong with the men? They’re asking questions…but are they listening to the answers?
Let’s start with this New York Post article. Time after time, what we see are headlines, posts, and videos highlighting just the dumbest of the dumb, the loudest minority, or the stupid sexy people whose opinions make no sense at all.
The Publishers know they don’t make any sense. But for the clicks and likes, the publishers push their opinions for the sake of revenue. Cash is king. Money rules all.
The problem is, when mainstream publishers only promote the stupid opinions with no solutions or rebuke in the form an intellectual response that’s rooted in some standard or virtue, it gives the impression that those stupid people are representative of the greater gender/class/race who look like them.
For instance, the case of this 27-year-old white woman who was apparently put off by the text message of, “hey, had fun last night, have a good day.”
Her complaint was, “Is he a bad texter or is he over 35?” And she followed up with, “I have to start dating people my own age, but I won’t.”
In response to that, a majority of the 900+ comments were clearly on the side of the gentleman who gave a perfectly innocuous text message, the kind of message we all know most women would love to get.
The Definition of Stupid:
So why promote this stupid person? (forgive me, I’m not trying to call her names, but I’m emphasizing “stupid” as an adjective)
The permeation of opinions like this one gives the impression that everyone who looks like her (age, race, appearance) thinks like her.
“Nah-uh, Rock. You act like people are so narrow-minded that they can’t realize she doesn’t speak for everyone.”
Go and look at the comments for that article. It’s the same kind of comments you see when black people are acting up. Anonymous comments show you what people really think but would never say out loud or in public.
I know every group has its rotten apples. You might know it too. But there’s something you’re overlooking.
Don’t you find it fascinating that the young woman is so bold as to post her thoughts online as if she ASSUMES most people are going to agree with her, and give her validation and support?
The Kansas City Chief’s kicker Harrison Butker just created waves by giving a commencement speech where he mentioned a lot of Christian talking points, specifically how women were lied to by a culture that seems to not want women to be mothers and homemakers. (And what’s funny, is that he also talked about how men need to be fathers living in the household, but no one wants to talk about that.)
Yes, a lot of people disagreed with Harrison. But on the flip side, a lot of men and women agreed with him and loved what he said. So, whose voices are the mainstream lifting up? Hint, it isn’t the Christian voices or those championing for family and the love of traditional values.
And even those who are against Butker’s talking points, what do they offer in return? Seriously, if look at those who are complaining, are they’re married? Look at their lives and ask yourself, “do I want to live like that?”
Compared them to Harrison Butker, who’s happily married with a loving family and children.
Which life would you prefer? And when it comes to that question, I do encourage you to think long-term, not just the life you have now in your 20s and 30s. You’re not going to be young forever.
Why am I emphasizing long-term? More and more, women are asking questions about why Men “appear” to be giving up with dating. She’s asking questions…but is she willing to listen to the answers?
Think about that for a moment as I highlight this next video. Here, a woman calls into a podcast show and calls out the man who “ghosted her” after a one-night stand. She wants to know why he ghosted her. She’s asking questions.
The Radio Hosts got the man (Mike) on the line and, long story short, the guy found out that the woman (Jenny) has a tattoo of her ex-husband’s name on her stomach that says, “Adam’s Cat” with an arrow pointed to her cat parts.
Unbeknownst to Mike, Jenny was secretly on the line during this on-air phone conversation.
Now mind you, the man provided an answer. She asked the question. And he answered. Instead of listening and accepting that the man is free to do and think whatever he wants…she responds with S.I.G.N. language (shame, insults, guilt, and need to be right.)
Jenny says, “Who cares!? What I’m confused about is why Mike is so insecure and, like, juvenile about this? And he’s clearly a prune.”
She’s not listening. She never had any intention of understanding. Even if Mike took the time to explain why he’s supposedly “insecure” about it, I suspect she still wouldn’t accept his position. Her goal, was to shame him into submission.
That’s what you see, not just with her, but with a lot of Modern American women in general. Instead of listening to what Men want. They’re determined to train and condition Men into forgetting about their own wants and to prioritize HER wants, to accept her regardless of who she is or what she’s done. And for us Christian men, it harkens back to the Garden of Eden.
Bringing us to this lady, who has gone viral because her sentiments seem to resonate with a lot of women who are struggling to find love despite having built a beautiful life for themselves.
The above video, isn’t unique. It’s one of hundreds where women take to Tiktok and complain about wanting love, and doing everything they can to get it, but they’re just failing. And of course, women aren’t the only ones who do this.
Men used do it too, but they were called losers and INCELs, so they’ve been trained to keep their struggles to themselves.
In the video, the first thing a lot of people glossed over is that she feels “left behind” BECAUSE all of her friends have husbands, fiancé, and boyfriends that they prioritize. One wonders, if all her friends were still single and enjoying that city girl life, would she still feel left behind?
In the video, she mentions how she’s constantly told that she’s doing things wrong. You’ll find a lot of “I” and “Me” and building a life for “herself”. Plainly put, ladies…Love is more about what you can do for others and not what others can do for you.
As a man who’s always been marriage minded, I’ve always moved in such a way that I keep a vacant space in my life for a woman to come in and feel like she has a place in it.
That’s why I don’t have children outside of wedlock (in case she only wants to deal with her own children), that’s why I don’t own a pet (in case she’s allergic and other reasons), it’s why I held off buying my own home for so long (in case we need to relocate or we can pick out a house together), and it’s why I worked hard to stay in shape (in case she doesn’t like fat out-of-shape men).
Do you understand what I’m saying? In my twenties, I lived my life not just for myself, but keeping in mind what my future wife might want from me. It’s not ALL about me.
To be clear, Women are free to do whatever they want. But when you start to complain and blame men for not liking or accepting your lifestyle or the decisions you’ve made, especially the ones that have long-lasting consequences (like tattoos of your exes), you do sound stupid.
Men have the same freedom women have. And while a lot of guys have bought into the Disney/Marvel Woke culture, more and more, we’re seeing that Liberal Women still prefer traditionally masculine men…these men happen to be Conservative.
Last point from that video about the woman struggling to find love. A female commenter on X posted this about it, placing the blame on men.
Notice what the woman says about how “Women simply have a much worse pool to choose from mate wise because most women have more to offer than most men.”
She thinks that most women have more to offer than most men. Like what? That’s an honest question. Because if you watched, I don’t think the young woman mentioned anything about herself that men are really looking for in a wife. Everything she mentioned was about what she wanted for herself.
Meanwhile, you do get plenty of women who do understand what Men want. And furthermore, Men are not ashamed to shower those women with compliments and comments letting the whole world know, “This one…we want women like this one.”
But then what happens? Other women see this and instead of understanding and accepting what Men want, they attack those ladies and call them “Pick-Mes”…which is truly the dumbest slur ever.
The woman who complained about wanting love essentially wants to be PICKED! It’s okay to admit this. In fact, embracing the truth might lead to less frustration.
I believe that the infiltration of Feminism and progressive ideology has convinced women that they simply should not care what men want. Thus, the only advice they listen to are other women, men who pander, or male celebrities that other women have tacitly given their social approval as the one’s worth listening to.
But the average guy, the majority of men of which most women will likely need to select from if they want to get married…those men are invisible. Their opinions and wants and desires are seen as shallow and insecure.
Here, we have a woman clear as day explaining why Men don’t approach and how Sexual Harassment and Flirting depends on whether or not the woman is attracted to the guy. But if you read the comments, almost every woman I saw either bashed the woman, insulted the men who are co-signing her message, or worse…they dismiss the issue with one woman saying, “I think this is an overblown fear. Men that are respectful and direct don’t deal with being accused…” you know, as if she’s speaking from a place of personal experience where she dresses up as a guy on the weekends and experiences this for herself.
Ladies…this is a problem.
The Refusal to Listen:
When I say they “Refuse to Listen”…I literally mean, they hear men…they just defiantly refuse to be the kind of women most men want. How do I know this?
Because they tell on themselves. In the countless TikTok Videos where women complain about Men who go overseas to find wives (Passport Bros), the ladies reveal that they know EXACTLY what men want and what we’re looking for…they just refuse to accommodate. The video below is queued up to begin at a montage proving my point.
Let’s hit a few points for kicks and giggles.
One of the women asserts that Men are only going for those foreign women because they’re less outspoken, they don’t demand anything, and that they’re just happy. Others have opined that Men are just going to take advantage of foreign women because they’re supposedly poorer, less educated, and are old-school traditionally feminine.
If you know this, wouldn’t it behoove you to stop acting like your money, education, and progressive ideals are hot selling points on what a man finds attractive? Wouldn’t you focus on being more traditionally feminine, nicer, and cooperative? I mean…assuming you’re right about why men want foreign wives, of course.
Furthermore, “Educated” is subjective and open to interpretation. You can be college educated these days, yet dumb as a box of rocks when it comes to God’s purpose or true diversity of thought.
And on the same token, you can be a foreign woman who’s never been to college but comes from a different cultural background, so you have a lot to share with your man with when it comes to customs, new foods, new music, dances, and even traditions and things to do. You’d be surprised how much things like this can enrich a man’s life.
The women who complain about Older Men going for 20-something-year olds say that Men just want to take advantage of the younger women who “don’t know their worth.” They say that a younger woman is more likely to put up with a man’s BS, and that men just want to groom the younger woman to be the kind of woman he wants.
Let’s say the ladies are correct about this. If they’re right, doesn’t it make more sense for men to seek out those younger women who are more open to dealing with us?
OR is it their argument that we should work on ourselves, get therapy, and sort ourselves out just so we can be more compatible to older women who are more likely to be set in their ways, have a high body count, has a child with some other man, and is probably not as beautiful and fertile as she once was.
I’m not saying this to be mean or belittle women, but just think about it. Even if you shame men for having these preferences, do you think insulting them for wanting what they want will magically make them want you?
Not to mention, there is the “fascination effect”. Ladies, if you didn’t know, men like impressing their women. The older you get, where you’ve already had so many experiences and done all these wonderful things without him, the more difficult it is to impress you. With younger ladies, it’s much easier and we like the sensation that our women see us as their heroes.
And yes…Men do prefer easy over difficult. We will always prefer easy over difficult. Why? Because life is hard enough as it is without committing yourself to a woman who’s going to add to such difficulties.
Seriously…this isn’t Love and Hip Hop. This isn’t the Real Housewives. Men don’t need drama and emotional roller coasters to know what love is and that they want you. We’re looking for women to be our helpmates. To be our peace. Companions for life.
I know…I know. Here’s the part where Women would scream, “Well, do Men listen to Women!?”
I’m of the opinion that we do. Easy! I know…the response then becomes, “Well, if men listen, then why aren’t they stepping up?”
There’s many reasons for that. For starters, what women say they want often conflicts with the men they actually go for. But before I elaborate, allow me to demonstrate how I personally listened to what ladies say they want.
I went from 378lbs down to 220. I worked my ass off to get out of debt so I can have a solid financial foundation to start a family. I hit the boxing gym. I am strong. I’ve gone out and experienced things that added to my character. I am a competent, capable man.
I did these things, not only because it’s how God calls us to live as husbands and fathers, but it’s because this is what women SAY they want! I listened. I’m not the only one!
Nearly every Instagram reel dedicated to men bettering themselves is focused on telling men to get in shape, work on their purpose, and get money. For the sake of themselves, yes, but also to take care of their families and loved ones. That’s you, ladies!
Furthermore…when I say, “MEN LISTEN”. Ladies…you have to understand that we’re not just listening to what you say you want…we observe what’s objectively happening in reality. Self-awareness is pivotal.
I say that, because the advice our old-school parents gave us about how to approach and ask women out have failed us. I’d argue that a majority of us needed to understand why. If what we were taught isn’t working, what will work?
So, we observe. We hear. We see. What do women say they want? What do they actually go for?
Proof that Men Listen:
How many times have you and your female friends griped about the fact that men don’t approach anymore? Why do you think that happened? Because once upon a time, men did approach. We made the first move. We’d ask you, a complete stranger, for your number and even if you rejected us, we’d take pride in the fact that we mustered up the courage to shoot our shot.
But now we don’t. That’s because we LISTENED to the women who have been broadcasted on the media, TV, and news complaining about men cat-calling and that we’re creeps, and how it’s all toxic male behavior.
It’s because we OBSERVED what happened to the men during the MeToo Movement where, not just celebrities, but damn near every normal average plain Jane woman came out to complain about the unwanted male attention they got and lumped those perpetrators in with the likes of real scumbags and criminals like Harvey Weinstein.
I know…all women were not onboard with those movements. Not all women complain about being asked out or approached. But if you want to know “why,” there’s your answer.
“So, now what, Rock? Do men expect women to do the approaching? Are men just content with staying single forever?”
Everybody’s different. But I would say it’d put you ahead of the curve if you listened and understood what happened and why men are reluctant.
“I don’t understand why you aren’t blaming men. Women didn’t harass themselves. It’s those creeps who did the harassing. So maybe if you focused more time on the men…”
We had over five years of the mainstream media focusing on the men, calling out toxic male behavior, and shaming traditional masculine values. Funny how this usually happens when a Republican is close to winning the presidency, go figure.
Your Wants Goes Against How God Calls Us to Live:
I’ll end it with this. A common complaint is that Men aren’t Economically Attractive. Amongst Black Women, they’ll say that they want a man who makes more than her. That he must be a provider, so they want a man with money and status.
There’s nothing wrong with that. It brings a man purpose and fulfillment. The problem is, sometimes what Modern Women want goes against how God Calls us to live. And when that happens, it is our duty to reject your wants.
“How is it against God to provide for your family?”
Because it’s the lifestyle you want to live. Don’t get me wrong, wealth is not a sin. Very often God blesses his servants with money and material riches. But the LOVE of money is the root of all evil. (1 Timothy 6:10)
Ladies…I don’t care what anyone tells you, you can have a loving, purpose-filled family with a man who makes $50-$60k a year. People do it all the time. It’s called living within your means. Those men provide for their families and still have time to go on vacations at least twice a year.
However, if you want/require a man to go above and beyond his station in order to make more money for the sake of you traveling the world, getting that fancy car you want, the big house, the clothes…I won’t say it’s wrong to be ambitious.
But I am saying that Godly Men may hear what those women want and refuse to do what they want. It won’t be because we don’t want to see our women happy. Trust me, every man who loves their women wants to do whatever they can to impress and put a smile on her face.
But we’ll refuse if your wants get in the way of our love for God. Our Lord, Jesus Christ, tells us that his yoke is easy and the burden is light (Matt 11:28-30). We’re called to live modest lives, to give to the poor, to serve our fellow man.
Jesus tells us not to store up our treasures here on earth. For what good is it to gain the whole world at the forfeiture of our souls? We can’t serve God and money. Thus, he tells us to seek first the kingdom of Heaven and all things will be added onto us. (Matt 6:19-33)
For a man to prioritize money just to get a smoking hot woman who 1) likely did not save herself for him and 2) isn’t a God-fearing Proverbs 31 woman otherwise she wouldn’t covet such lofty lifestyles, and 3) loves you based on what you can provide, which means she’ll likely divorce you the moment you fall on hard times…I’m sorry ladies, that’s just illogical.
Thus, as ever, I stress that when it comes to our frustrations as Millennials, Gen-Z and all other future generations…the answer to such hardships is our return to Christ and putting faith in how God calls to live.
Without it, you will run into futility. Pointlessness. A lack of trust, a lack of loyalty. Because everyone’s god is their own personal feelings which can change over time or with a powerful variant, like a new guy or girl entering their lives and igniting feelings that tempt them to detach from their current long-term relationships in favor of new one.
Alright…I can keep rambling, but I’ll end it there.
Stage In The Sky 