Five Detrimental Situations the Ambitious Should Avoid
By Rock Kitaro
February 26th, 2014
This list is one that I come up with based on my own personal experience and inspired by Cracked.com’s “6 Harsh Truths that will make you a Better Person” along with Forbe.com’s “Mentally Strong People: The Thirteen Things They Avoid”. As I am still learning and growing, I welcome my readers to comment on if they think I’m wrong or something else they think I should avoid.
To start off, I’d like to point out the “Thirteenth Thing” that mentally strong people avoid, according to Cheryl Connor and Amy Morin. That thirteenth thing is that mentally strong people avoid “expecting immediate results”. I believe that in order to keep striving in the pursuit of their goals, it takes a certain degree and ambition. So if you have that ambition, here are six things you should avoid.
- Revealing your goals to individuals who have none – I’m not talking about people who have already lived their life and accomplished most of their goals. I’m not even talking about teenagers, college students and kids who still haven’t figured out what they want to do. I’m talking about the individuals who have graduated college or settled on the peak of their education, reached over the age of twenty-six and still don’t know what they want out of life.
Revealing what you want to achieve to these kinds of people can drag you down if you’re not careful. Because think about it. When you reveal your goals, a certain amount of pride is emitted, no matter how modest or humble your tone is. You have something that you want and you’re working hard to get it. Revealing that to someone is mildly similar to revealing to a woman how you find them attractive. You’re laying your heart out there, thus giving the other person power to either approve or disapprove. And when it comes to individuals who have no goals or motives, that’s like going to a poor homeless person and describing what you intend to do with your paycheck.
And more importantly, when you reveal this to individuals who have no goals…it seems they have a tendency to slight you for caring so much. They may not do this maliciously or say those words verbatim, but it’s the vibe that comes off. This leaves you to question if you are caring too much, or if your goals are too idealistic and not realistic.
But keep in mind, that one does not simply roll out of bed and say, I think I’m going to navigate the Grand Canyon. Thought and determination goes behind it, usually with a good reason. So shake off your doubts and continue on. Bringing us to point number two.