By: Rock Kitaro
Date: April 3rd, 2014
While it may be true that actions speak louder than words…It can be a bit problematic because a person’s “actions” can say a lot of things and be misinterpreted. Especially with my generation where most people seem to simply flow whichever way the wind (trends) blows. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been put in a situation where a person is telling me one thing, but their actions say another. … like this nonsense of thinking to themselves in a glorified fashion that they are “different”. … No you’re not… And its not an insult to say you’re normal, but that’s not what this post is about.
I won’t go so far as to say that the person is lying when they’re actions contradicts what they’re vocally trying to convey. But I think the word “lying,” is misused way too often as an adult. What people mean to say, is that another person is simply “mistaken”.
A “Lie” is a false statement made with the intentions to deceive.
But if a person makes a statement that they honestly believe is correct, and yet it turns out that they’re wrong. This doesn’t mean they’re lying. They’re just mistaken. Get it?! 😀
The purpose of this post is to combat that statement of “actions speak louder than words.”
I just illustrated how a person can be vocally misleading. But their actions…you know, with them being louder than words… can also be misleading on a very frustrating level. Both men and women should know what I’m getting at. When a girl or guy is really nice to you, doesn’t mind talking to you, and even flirts with you a little bit…but Oh! She or he is in a relationship. Their actions were a bit misleading, weren’t they?
Or it could be the case that the guy or girl is just extremely gregarious with everyone they meet. And it could be you letting yourself believe that the other person is hitting on you when they’re not. Of course, if you are the gregarious type, you should be able to spot those with low self-esteem and use caution as to not lead them on. That’s just being responsible.
And there’s the thing to keep in mind that everyone is their own individual. A person may love you and just doesn’t know how to show it. Even if they do show it, and its not enough, is that really their fault? Or Yours?
This is where experience comes to play. And better still…experience with individuals outside of your circle of friends, race, religions, political opinion, orientation, culture, etc. The more contact and conversations you have with a diverse array of people, the better experience you’ll get at discerning the truth between the chaotic utterings of both actions and words.
Sidenote – If you’re constantly being disappointed by people. Instead of blaming the others, it could simply be because you have bad judgment.
P.S. This is regarding relationships. Not ambitions. Yeah…if you talk about building a bridge all day and don’t take any steps to getting it done…shame on you…