For years, I’ve been hearing about how the church panders to women. I don’t want to go so far as to say, “I didn’t want to believe it…” but it’s more like, I just haven’t seen it for myself to the level that I could nod in agreement.
My wife and I have been attending a popular church since June 2025. We really like it. We joined up with some groups. Met some amazing couple and we’re making new friends.
This isn’t a Catholic Church. Not a Baptist, Lutheran, or Pentecostal. Just a Protestant church family with over 300 in attendance every Sunday in a massive complex that has an auditorium and classrooms where they host Sunday school for kids and meetings for adults.
They believe in God and recognize Jesus Christ as our lord and savior. They sing songs with passion. And while I don’t agree 100% with all their beliefs, I understand that it’s going nearly impossible to find a church where I agree with everything being preached.
One of those things I clearly disagree with this church about…is Women being on stage preaching to the audience.
It doesn’t happen often. For the most part, it’s male pastors and their sermons are amazing. But twice now (since June 2025), this church has had women up on stage preaching to the audience for the main sermon.
The first time they did it was a few months ago and it was truly disappointing. I had to sit there, wrestling with feelings of:
- Am I not being humble, right now?
- Am I being a misogynistic, sexist pig?
- Why is this bothering me so much?
- Everyone else looks like they’re okay with this. Am I the problem?
All while I should be focusing on worshiping and pouring my devotion into the message being preached. But because it’s a woman preaching it to us…it was hard to accept it.
I know…I know that sounds super bad.
And yeah, you can look at me and say, “Sounds like you’re the problem, Rock. Sounds like you need to change.”
Okay, sure. Let’s say you’re correct. Now what? What IS my problem? Why is it a problem for me? Calling me names won’t help answer those questions.
Then, this past Sunday, Nov 9th, 2025…again, lol, there was a woman on stage preaching to us.
This time, it wasn’t just a female preacher…it was a Pastor and his Wife tag-teaming the sermon.
I actually like both of these people, a beautiful white couple in their early 30s or late 20s. The Pastor has given amazing sermons in the past. And the wife is part of the worship team, singing on stage.
Together, they’ve done announcements in the past. They’ve encouraged the audience to get involved with events happening on the calendar.
But this is the first time they’ve actually done a sermon together.
And again…it bothered me.
So…in the spirit of full disclosure…allow me to take a moment and explain why there may be external factors pouring into my “jaded perspective”.
In September 2025, we saw the tragic assassination of Charlie Kirk. And in the aftermath, his wife Erika Kirk has taken over the Turning Point USA events, leading and giving speeches where…not going to lie, there’s a lot of veneration, almost to the point where it’s starting to get a bit uncomfortable…like idolization.
And I get that Charlie is a martyr and I was just like everyone else who was angry and cut up about his death. But when it gets to the point that we’re using rhetoric like, “You’re dishonoring the name of Charlie Kirk…or Charlie wouldn’t have wanted that…” I think we should slow it down a bit.
We respect and admire our human heroes. But our worship and loyalty belongs to our heavenly Father and Christ.
At some of these Turning Point USA Events, we see women like Allie Beth Stuckey (ABS) rising up.
Jack from Sigma Frame published an awesome post, that more or less sums up my own concerns with Women standing up at the podium and preaching or instructing men as to what we should be doing or how we should be doing it.
Jason Whitlock of Fearless had his crew talking about it, where other men (black men) also scolded men for being bothered by Allie Beth Stuckey’s message.
For those who didn’t see it. Amongst ABS’s declaration of “We need you men,” she also warned men of the dangers of P0rn. She warned men of the side effects of it and how it ruins us, more or less.
So, the guys on Jason Whitlock’s show were like, “Allie is not wrong. A hit dog is going to holler.” Basically, they scolded men, saying we need to get out of our feelings and stop being bothered by the fact that it’s a woman telling us what to do.
In Jack’s Post, he quoted a guy named Pat Stedman who wrote, “But you and all the other conservative, Christian women who get on stage and talk about the problems with men (regardless of how correct you may be), unfortunately, do not understand that what you are doing isn’t only unhelpful, it’s inherently contradictory. Rather than solve the problem of male leadership you lament, you in fact underline the cause of it.
Men become leaders for one reason: because a man — either from his own Will or from fate thrusting it upon him — realizes that he must. He notices there is a problem that needs to be solved. He either sees incompetence or a vacuum and decides he must step forward to either correct or fill it.
A man does NOT become a leader when he is nagged into it by a woman. A man does NOT become a leader when the legitimacy of his actions is measured by how much they align with a woman’s interests. He does NOT have authority in such a scenario because his authority is constantly questioned. He has the responsibility of acting and bears the consequences of these actions, but he lacks agency to determine which actions to take. He might be out in front, but he is NOT a leader — he is a sock puppet. Really, he is a slave.”
Jack made a point, that all of this is basically about women’s approval, which implies the woman is the authority, not the man.
They DO want Men to lead. They just want Men to lead the way women want them to.
All of that surfaced last week before I saw this past Sunday’s sermon where the pastor and his wife co-led their sermon.
So…maybe I’m a little bit jaded, to the point that I’m seeing the effects of Feminism everywhere?
But the thing is, lol…even my wife had a problem with it. Later that day, I had to film my boss, a criminal defense attorney…he had a problem with it.
I video-called my parents after that. They happened to be Jehovah’s Witnesses. They had a problem with it and used Scriptures to justify their stance.
And that’s the thing, we’re going to get into it. There are Scriptures to support the argument/belief/tradition of why Women shouldn’t be preaching the sermon to an audience, specifically to Men.
But if I know that, and I’m willing to be the Pastors of this church knows that, why are they allowing Women to preach?
We all know why. And ironically, the Pastor was talking about John 19 and the Roman governor’s (Pilot’s) desire to satisfy the Jewish mob even though he saw no fault in Jesus.
Yes…the Pastor was using two strings to demonstrate how we as humans are constantly pulled between our love for the world and our love for God.
He said, part of our love for this world might include our love for family. He said, “And family could be a good thing. But it can’t be our king.”
He declared, “The things we fear, we revere.”
“Alright, Rock! Just get to it. Why do you think they allowed women to preach?”
It’s clear. The Pastor said himself. He just didn’t realize it.
It’s because they’re love for women outweighs their love for God. It’s because they fear women more than they fear God.
And if the pastor believes the words coming out of his own mouth, then by extension, we can conclude that “by fearing Women more than God, they revere Women more than God.”
Why do I say that? Because I’m willing to bet, the only reason why they let women preach to the audience is because some woman ASKED to do it. I doubt this group of men sat around in a circle and said, “You know what…we need more women preachers.”
If they did and that’s what happened, I’d never go back. But more than likely, a woman, or group of women, or somebody’s wife put it in the ear of male leadership that they should/could preach to the audience…and because the men desire to please the women more so than sticking to what God instructs…they allowed women to preach.
That is Feminism. This is how Feminism corrupts the church.
I explained all these things to my wife immediately after the sermon. But it wasn’t enough to rely on my own logic and reason. Not on something like this.
She said I didn’t need to pull out the Bible to justify my opinions, but I needed to. It wasn’t just to teach and lead my wife…but to strengthen my own faith in what I’ve already read.
Because it is possible, ladies and gentlemen, that I’ve misinterpreted the Scriptures or that didn’t read it correctly. That is meekness. That’s humility.
That is me allowing myself to believe that, just for a moment, the pastor and his wife understand the Bible better than me, and that I might just be wrong.
In 1 Timothy Chapter 2, the Apostle Paul (Jesus’s chosen servant to spread the Gospel and instruct the church)…wrote these words to Timothy on how the church should be run.
Starting in Verse 11, it says, “11 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner.”
If you call yourself a Christian, a follower of Christ…this is what the Bible says.
So, for everyone who wants to call me a misogynist or sexist…the only problem you have with me is the fact that I choose to believe and obey.
Your problem isn’t with me. It’s with the Scriptures…the words of God.
In Matthew Chapter 5, Jesus preaches in the beatitudes the virtues of being meek and humble.
So, if you’re a woman who aspires to be a preacher, standing up at the pulpit and giving a sermon to an audience of women and Men…being meek and humble would prompt you to accept and obey the fact that it is not your place to do those things.
It doesn’t mean you can’t do other very important things in the church. You can still be administrators, hosting social events, and teaching Sunday school.
Or, like Priscilla you can still minister to unbelievers and those struggling in their faith. But if you’re follower of Christ, it would behoove you to guide any man to other men to lead them.
As my mother put it, in using Ephesians Chapter 5, there’s a proper order when it comes to leadership. It goes Christ, Husband, Wife, and then Children.
If you think this is unfair or that things need to change, I’d encourage you to ask, “Why do you think things need to change? Why do you think it’s unfair?”
Seriously, ask yourself, “Do you think this man would benefit better if a woman is preaching to him, or if it’s another man preaching to him?”
For those who want to scream, “it doesn’t matter…” okay, then fall back.
Because, clearly, to a lot of us. It does matter.
For those who want to scream, “we can do it equally effective…” What makes you think that?
I’m encouraging you to ask yourself these questions because only you (and Jehovah) knows your heart. And by “heart”…I mean your motives.
Because I suspect, if you really get down to the root of why women want to be a Preacher or stand at the pulpit giving a sermon to men…is because of vanity and ego.
It’s the same reason why modern women complain about there not being enough women in the boardrooms and not “there aren’t enough female plumbers and roofers.”
Your vanity and ego has you drawn to covet positions that you perceive glamorous and holding power, fame, and authority.
“HA! That’s rich, Rock. How do we know it’s not YOUR vanity and ego that pricks your pride when you see a woman preaching to you?”
Easy. I know I’m not fit to be a Preacher or Pastor over a church. How do I know this? Why do I think this?
THE BIBLE!
That’s right! For everyone who wants to scream that the Bible is sexist, oppressive, and discriminates against women, guess what…the Bible discriminates against most men too! MOST MEN are not qualified to be Pastors, Deacons, and Overseers.
In 1 Timothy Chapter 3, the Apostle Paul writes, “3 The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. 2 Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, 3 not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.”
Now, that right there already disqualifies a bunch of men who are currently holding positions of Pastor and Overseers. We’ve seen it. We’ve used it to claim how corrupt a lot of these churches are.
We know of Pastors who are rich and barely give to the poor. We know of pastors who cheat on their wives with their parishioners. This is awful. Those men should NOT be pastors.
Let’s continue.
“4 He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, 5 for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?”
Again…Big issue. There are a lot of pastors who’s children grow up and run amuck. Teen daughters who are loose with their sexual immorality. Sons who smoke weed, get involved with gangs and do drugs.
Those pastors should not be overseers, because look at their homes.
And yes…call it judging, call it whatever…but Jehovah’s given us the Bible for the reason. We’re supposed to read the words and use our discernment.
That’s why the early church didn’t want peasants and serfs reading the Bible for themselves. It made it easier to control the population.
“Whatever, Rock! Things have changed. The time has changed. I think you’re just sexist. All you’re doing is hiding behind the Bible to justify your own misogyny.”
lol, that brings me back to Sunday’s sermon.
They were using Pontius Pilot as an example of a human being torn between what the people (humans) want and what God wants.
God wants obedience. Christ says, “If you love me, you will keep my commandments.” (John 14:15)
The Humans say, “Choose us. We don’t agree with how the Bible calls us to live and we want Christians to get with our program. If you don’t, we’ll use every ism and phobic in the book to demonize you as a villain. There goes your job, your reputation, and your money.”
What will you do? Who do you care more about pleasing? Humans? Or Jehovah?
And as far as hiding behind the Bible, yeah…that shaming tactic used to work on me…back before I read Ephesians 6 that basically encourages to use the Scriptures as the Armor of God, the shield of faith to ward off all arrows from the evil one (which is Satan the Devil.)
To tell me NOT to hide behind the Bible, NOT obey the Scriptures, NOT seek Jehovah for instruction or how he calls us to live, is to encourage me to lean on my own understanding.
Proverbs 3:5 tells us not to do that.
Why?
lol, look at the state of this Country and the answers will come to you. Look at what happened to France when they tried to supplant religion with the Goddess of Reason, which is basically just human emotions and logic.
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