After watching Netflix’s “Love is Blind: Habibi”…it’s pretty clear that a lot of bloggers, Feminists, and content creators don’t want American men getting any bright ideas.
Points Discussed:
- Intro – Are Traditional Men Hypocrites?
- What is “Love is Blind” and Why is it So Popular?
- They Prioritize Fame, Clout, and Fun over Getting Married
- Refraining from Sex Gives You Strength
- They Prioritize Faith and Tradition
- Respect and Honor Means Everything – Chafic’s Example
Intro – Are Traditional Men Hypocrites?
If you Google “Love is Blind: Habibi” right now, one of the first entries you’ll see on the Search Engine is a Reddit post called, “Love is Blind Habibi is the Worst in the Franchise”. The writer starts off with “the men are mentally abusive and controlling…”
And that tells you all you need to know. Plainly put, Love is Blind Habibi clearly illustrates how much Feminism has ruined relationships between men and women, not just in America, but around the world.
Why? Because if you want a traditional man, the one who protects, provides, and treats you the way a “real man” is supposed to treat you…then you must be a traditional woman, who’s fit, feminine, cooperative, friendly and submissive, a woman who prioritizes faith and the family over their careers and worldly desires.
Here, you’ll have ladies criticize the men for being hypocrites. I’ve seen plenty of thumbnails and commenters saying things like, “They’re hypocrites because they themselves aren’t traditional. How is it fair that a man like Ammar can run around with his shirt off on the beach but has a problem if women do it?”
This is a very childish way of thinking. Because, by that logic, all parents are hypocrites for saying their children can’t do something like watch rated R movies, but the parents do.
Men and Women are different. There are things that are traditionally acceptable for women to do, but men can’t and vice versa. If you think that’s not fair and anything a man can do women can do as well, then you’re not as traditional as you think.
“Hang on, Rock! She can’t have a life of her own?”
She can.
However,…IF she wants a man and expects him to do things for her…that man is also going to expect something in return.
Spoiler alert, I’m not talking about sex. That’s important because if you take that off the table, a lot of women today are at a loss for words when it comes to figuring out what Men want from them.
To be clear, I’m not saying it’s wrong to have expectations from your husband. But if Men reveal what they want from their wives and it conflicts with how she wants to live, the Men are often met with shame, guilt, and insults.
For example, you’ll have so-called conservatives like Tomi Lahren bash young American men for being “pussified”. She says she wants a strong man who’s “a protector and a provider and will go to war for her”.
But when Andrew Wilson asked, “Okay, and what do men get for doing all that for you?” She’s at a loss for words. Another man even mocks him for daring to want something in return. (I have that queued up below.
And as much as American women like to say, “Well, the Men in America aren’t like their fathers…”
Okay. Go and watch Love and Blind Habibi and you’ll see.
Because those Arab men ARE like their fathers. They want what their fathers had. But unfortunately, they’re dealing with Feminist-corrupted women who want to be “liberal” in their lifestyles, while prioritizing their careers and “fun,” and yet they still expect their men to be traditional.
In “Love is Blind Habibi,” I saw a group of men who led with faith, tradition, and culture. That’s why the Internet is calling them “toxic, mentally abusive, and controlling”.
Trust me, they’d say the same thing about American men IF most American men also led with their faith and tradition. Why? Because the Bible (God) calls us to be the leaders of our household and that wives are to submit to her husband’s headship.
That concept alone is why so many, including those who call themselves Christians…they absolutely hate “Godly Men” and those who put God first.
A lot of modern-day women SAY they want a Godly Christian man, but they refuse to accept parts of the Bible that tell us how God calls men and women to live.
Thus, Jesus Christ’s warnings ring true for a lot of relationships in America when he said that you can’t serve two masters. You can’t be both a Christian and part of the World (feminist).
“Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” – Matt 6:24
What is “Love is Blind” and Why is it So Popular?
For those who don’t know, Love is Blind is a reality show about young singles who are put on dates in rooms where there’s a wall between them, called Pods. Thus, you don’t know what the other person looks like as you enjoy these dates, get to know each other, and see if you’re compatible.
If the couple gets engaged in the Pods, they get to embrace each other in real life. They’re then taken to a resort getaway where they can enjoy each other’s company. They eventually go back to their home cities and see if they can assimilate into each other’s lives, meeting friends and family…and if they make it to the end of 40 days, they get married.
“Love is Blind” is a treasure trove of valuable lessons that should be taught to anyone who hopes to understand the dynamics between men and women. The most obvious takeaway is how biased everyone is when it comes to siding with the Women.
No, I’m not saying all the men were perfect and all the women were bad.
But what you’ll find is Women are the most praised and validated from viewers and media outlets with very little accountability, no one wanting to call them out on their BS because everyone’s afraid of being called a misogynist or oppressing her freedom to live and do whatever she wants.
Online, you’ll might find the comment’s section holding her accountable…but that’s not what makes it to the headlines. And even on the reunion shows, except for a few unmistakably evil women, most women are shown the utmost empathy and compassion without ever having to apologize or admit they did anything wrong.
Meanwhile, the men are often taken to task, made to apologize, and account for their behavior. If the relationship doesn’t work out, nine times out of ten, the blame is heaped on the men.
The good-natured Cole was the biggest example of a male victim of “toxic” behavior. This guy was gas-lit and dealt with all kinds of mental abuse, not just from the woman he matched with, but every other female chose to gang up on him. (See video below for full breakdown)
Why am I pointing this out? First off, it explains why most American Men don’t do follow up shows or social media interviews where they attempt to explain “their side.”
Why don’t they do this? Because there’s no benefit.
Most Men are aware that they aren’t going to get any sympathy points. No one gives an eff about how they feel or what they want. It doesn’t further their career, nor do most of them have that spiteful desire to make the woman out to be the “bad guy”.
They Prioritize Fame, Clout, and Fun over Getting Married
Another thing you start to notice is the individual’s goal on actually finding a spouse and getting married.
Don’t get me wrong…I’m sure everyone signs up with the honest intent of finding a wife or a husband. But some are more serious than others.
It’s very much like the real world where some people date with the main intent on getting married, but others prioritize dating for the attention, the new experiences, and all the premarital bedroom fun they can get. I wrote about this before They want the wedding, not the marriage.
When it comes to Love is Blind, the show pays for the retreat or “honeymoon” in which new couples are able to visit these awesome resorts to soak in the sun, enjoy the beaches, and take in all kinds of fun activities right after they got engaged.
Thus, participants know “if I get engaged. I’m going on a free retreat!”
If you don’t get engaged. Then that’s the end of your airtime. No more interviews. No more attention. The show has established a culture of individuals becoming “insta-famous” on social media platforms after appearing on the program.
Thus, you risk not getting any of that if you don’t get engaged.
Why am I pointing this out? Because you’re going to see how quickly people switch up their personalities only after they got engaged. As if their primary goal wasn’t to get married, but to simply stay a part the show all the way to the last episode.
When you watch Love and Blind and see the arguments progress, it’s pretty clear who’s looking for clout when one person cares more about how their perceived by others (like the viewers or other contestants). They care more about that than the potential spouse they’re with.
That point is important. We can’t gloss over it. If you really want to be with the person you’re dating, you’d demonstrate it, even in arguments, by caring more about what they’re saying, how they feel, and what you can to do to coexist with that individual.
Instead…I’ve seen so many arguments where a person is clearly speaking like they know the camera is in the room. They care more about being perceived by the audience as “right” or standing on the moral high ground, than cooperating and working things out.
For example, with Virginia and Devon, Virginia clearly cared more about representing LGBTQ and the Democrat sisterhood than getting married. She knew where Devon stood as a Christian with conservative values long before they made it to the altar.
So, why go so far only to say “no” to him in front of his peers and family if NOT for the main goal of representing the “Sisterhood”? And so badly you want to tell them, “Congratulations. You got the love of the sisterhood but no husband. Hope it was worth it.”
So…after having watched all eight seasons of the original Love is Blind show in America…my wife really wanted to see the Habibi spin off. This show is based in Dubai where the men and women are all young Muslim singles hoping to get married.
And man….after having powered through the American couples…I was blown away by the Arab men.
I’m not a Muslim. I don’t believe in Allah or the Quran. But what I respect as a Christian more than anything is this messed up world, is living by the principles you declare.
Let’s get into it.
Refraining from Sex Gives You Strength
In the American series of “Love is Blind” it’s expected and accepted for the new couples to have sex with each other after they got engage. They brag about it. Some even express disappointment if it doesn’t happen.
In Love is Blind Habibi…that ain’t happening.
Couples don’t even share the same room together on their getaways. It’s all about tradition, customs, and respect. I love that! And again, it puts American Christians to shame because that’s what we should be doing. (1 Corinthians 7).
So, why do I say waiting gives you power?
For starters, it doesn’t blind you from the red flags of how terrible this potential spouse is. If sex isn’t on the table…you aren’t likely to sit there and put with months of rude behavior, the lack of reciprocity or prolonged mistreatment. You have the greater strength to walk away.
I think, we as Americans know this to be true. I’ve written about it before, but I think the reason why Hollywood is constantly promoting premarital sex and prioritizing it in relationships is because it keeps power more so in the hands of women.
Why?
Because there’s a saying…Women are the gatekeepers of sex, but men are the gatekeepers of relationships. Women are the ones who say yay or nay to sex while you’re dating her. Men are the ones who say yay or nay when it comes to getting down on one knee and proposing marriage to her.
If you can convince a society that marriage isn’t that important, but sex is…then the power mostly resides with the gender who controls access to sex.
In Love is Blind Habibi, women don’t have that power. Women can say yay or nay to marriage too, but how likely are they to propose? Who’s the one expected to propose? If women are waiting and relying on men to propose…Men have the power.
They Prioritize Faith and Tradition
It was absolutely refreshing to see how much they insert god in their conversations, affirmations, and even common pleasantries. They’re constantly saying “God bless you. God is good. God has been good to me. God willing.”
We Christians have been conditioned to keep that to ourselves, and I absolutely hate it. I can’t even say “by the grace of God” to describe my blessings in the workplace without someone furrowing their brows at me.
One of the reasons why I resent the whole Tolerance and Acceptance crowd is because they’re only tolerant and accepting of things that THEY like…and Christ is not one of them. (John 15:18-19)
Thus, we’re told to keep our faith out of the workplace, schools, and even politics, but LGBTQ, DEI, Black Pride and all manner of woke stuff is prevalent in corporate society, schools, and politics.
This never would’ve happened if more Americans knew the Bible.
The “traditions” of our fathers and grandfathers came from the scripture. The main reason LGBTQ stuff was able to rise in the late 2000s is because Americans clearly forgot what the Bible says on the matters of adultery, sexual immorality and homosexuality. (1Corinthians 6 9-11)
For Islam, there is a right and a wrong way and it’s dictated by their customs and the Quran. This is important because it takes me back to the Intro. You can’t be half in and half out. If you call yourself a Muslim and want a traditional Muslim man, then you have to be a traditional Muslim wife.
As we’re going to discuss with someone like Karma, a woman who claims that she comes from a household where men don’t see anything wrong with their wives belly-dancing in front of other men…this comes back to bite her in the end.
Respect and Honor Means Everything – Chafic’s Example
What I liked about the men from Love Is Blind Habibi is that they’re very straight forward, they don’t lie, and they understand what it means to have respect and honor. No, it doesn’t mean they’re perfect or without flaws. But let me use the example of Chafic to bring this point home.
Chafic came in as a smooth talker that won the hearts of several ladies from the get-go. He wasn’t perfect. But he knows he’s not perfect.
One of his flaws is his jealousy.
“But Rock! Jealousy isn’t good. Jealous men are possessive men. Women are not property.”
Jealousy isn’t good. But we as humans do experience it. We don’t want to. We’d rather avoid it. So, wise men choose women who don’t put them in positions where they’re constantly made to feel jealous.
Chafic knows that he can get irrationally uncomfortable if his woman seems like she’s flirting too much with another man. But for all his flaws, Chafic demonstrated how much respect and honor he has not just for women, but even the other men.
For instance, in the first episodes, Chafic and Ammar were both courting Karma. Ammar expressed how much he really liked Karma.
If this was in America, the men would be like, “Hey man, it’s every guy for himself. May the best man win.”
But Chafic, having compassion for Ammar, went into his next date with Karma and told her that he had to end things with her. He was up-front and honest. He didn’t mention Ammar’s name but said that his friend was in love with her, so Chafic backed off.
Does that sound like a possessive guy to you?
Later, when Chafic landed on his decision to get engaged to Dounia, he shouted out loud from the men’s waiting area how much he loved her. By accident, the ladies could overhear. This made Dounia happy, but it upset the other girls Chafic was courting.
So, the next time Chafic had a date with one of the other ladies, they tried to make him out to be the bad guy. They said something along the lines of, “I see now that you’re a player.”
Chafic’s response made me and my wife laugh out loud. He said, “NO! It proves that I’m not a player! Because I have nothing to hide!”
He’s right!
I think what I like about these guys…if you hadn’t guessed by now…is that they remind me of myself.
The culmination of religion, tradition, respect, and honor explain how I was the way I was when it came to finding a wife. It was difficult here in America. All these stupid rules about what is or isn’t acceptable, I always saw dating as simple and clean: Know what you want and go for that and that alone.
How should you go about it? By being yourself. Anything less or more, is a lie. You’re not only disrespecting yourself, but you’re setting yourself up for failure because she’s falling in love with your performance, not you.
Lastly, I’ve always been a big proponent of leading by faith. All these issues between what men want vs what women want, it could all be avoided if both of us allowed God to tell us what we should do.
Alright…in my next post, I’m going to follow up with the second part where I address this notion of how the Men on Love is Blind Habibi are supposedly controlling and oppressive. Stay tuned!
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