Stage In The Sky

Allow me to conclude this 9-Part Online Dating series by passing down the main lessons I learned to find a beautiful down-to-earth Christian wife after failing in my two priors stints.

In my previous parts, I explained why a man like me had no choice but to go back to the dating apps because the culture ruined the old-school ways in which Men Approached Women. I explained why Dating Apps won’t work for most people, primarily because of egos and an overinflated sense of value.

I explained how I “changed up my strategy” by being my authentic self instead of relying too heavily on Red Pill advice that’s designed to attract the wrong kind of woman. I revealed which Dating Apps gave me the best chances. I divulged my failed matches and how it didn’t work out with some beautiful prospects.

And lastly, I talked about how I attracted and recognized my wife when I found her. It didn’t take years to figure out she was “the one”. It took courage to be open and honest with her, which allowed her to demonstrate the qualities I was looking for in a wife.

So, as I wrap up this series about Online Dating, I just wanted to hit on a few key points to pass down if you were my sister or brother and you’re still looking for a loving, devoted spouse.

What’s Discussed:

1. Deductive Reasoning:
2. Which Women Would I NOT Swipe on?
3. 1. Smile in your pictures
4. 2. Show off a little body
5. 3. Be Yourself and Provide Info in Your Bio
6. 4. Lead With Your Faith…
7. 5. How to Demonstrate Interest Before the 1st Date
8. The 1st Date: Public Place 
9. How Much Money Should You Spend on a Dating Site?
10. Patience is Golden:
11. Prayer and Trust in God
12. What it Means to Commit

Deductive Reasoning:

I originally titled this sub-heading, “Know What to Look For”…but really, it does boil down to the logical assumptions you can make based on looking at their profile bios and the pictures they chose to upload.

The key phrase there is that “they chose” to upload it. You can tell a lot about a person based on how they choose to present themselves, what they put in their bio, or what they choose to withhold.

I know some dudes aren’t big thinkers. Some people don’t give things too much thought or care to think beyond the surface. Everyone’s different. I’m not saying my way is the best or the only way. But ladies…it really would behoove you to keep in mind that Men are the Buyers.

Unless you’re the type to go out, pursue, and have no problem putting in more effort to chase the guy, it’s men who are expected to pursue you. Thus, men are the consumers. If they aren’t buying what you’re offering…it could be because of the way you’re advertising yourself.

Furthermore…if you keep attracting the wrong kind of consumer (men)…it could be because the way you present yourself is like a beacon for the immoral men who have no honor, like the hood dudes, eff-boys, and players who are only in it to hit-it and quit-it…the ones who will sleep with women all day, but have no intentions of marrying them.

If you want a strong, competent, Christian man who intends to be a devoted husband and father…you have to present yourself as a woman who 1) is ready to be married, 2) has space for a man in your life, 3) has good sense, intelligence, and 4) you demonstrate that you’re aware of what men want.

Here’s how you do that with your dating profile.

Which Women Would I NOT Swipe on?

Full disclaimer, all of this is preferential and based on my own personal opinion. I can’t speak for all men. Everyone is different. So, read/take these tips at your own discretion.

1. Smile in your pictures

You are what you attract. If you want a positive, upbeat, happy person, you should present yourself as such. The culture would have you believe that most Men want a Boss Bae or a Bad B****.

But I’m telling you right now, Men like me will not accept that. (Prov. 21:9)We don’t like the abrasive attitudes or the need to compete or prove that you’re our equal or superior. If you care about things like that, it comes off as masculine. Masculine women do not attract masculine men.

Let me repeat that, Masculine Women do not attract Masculine Men!

There are a lot of Men who appear Masculine because they got the tattoos, they dress like thugs, gangsters, and they’re swole like they hit the gym or basketball courts.

But if they lack the discipline to contain their emotions, to focus on the goal, to remain faithful to their principles instead of abandoning them to worship you as the woman…that’s not masculine.

A lot of those dudes end up in jail. They’re the ones who abuse their mates, cheat on them, and commit all kinds of domestic violence because they’re slaves to their emotions and feelings. So, if you keep attracting these kind of dudes, it’s probably because you’re presenting yourself as a hard, for-the-streets, bad b**tch who they know they’re compatible with.

Why do I say that? Well…it’s just like women who tend to disqualify themselves when they see a man who has his life together, living by Bible standards, who doesn’t do drugs and is waiting for marriage to have sex.

Women like that instinctively know they don’t measure up, that they’re gonna be held accountable and be judged according to a standard. Thus, they don’t even entertain the possibility.

When I first signed on for online dating in 2024, on the first day, a black woman messaged me and said, “I’m very interested.”

But when I saw her profile pictures, in every single one of them, she looked unhappy. She looked bored and uninterested. The opposite of welcoming and inviting. If she smiled or looked like she enjoyed being alive, I might have responded to her.

“Well, Rock! That’s what the date’s for. You can’t just judge a woman based on her images alone and…”

Remember when I mentioned one of the things that I’m looking for in a wife is good sense and intelligence?

Well, the minimum amount of intelligence I require in a woman is one who understands how stupid it is to want someone who’s hard working and competent, yet expects him to sacrifice his time, money, and energy going out on dates with every single woman who expresses interest in him.

Think of it this way…

If you’re on DoorDash looking for something to eat, are you going to risk paying the inflated prices and delivery fees on an item where there’s no photo or an unflattering image of the item…OR are you more likely to select one that gives you a good idea of what you’re going to get?

I know these analogies might sound insulting…but if you’re on a dating site, I think we have to accept the fact that you’re very much on a marketplace.

2. Show off a little body

This might be surprising to say for my Christian readers…but I’m not saying ladies should post nudes or so-called thirst traps that leave little to the imagination. However, a full body shot that reveals your figure will show the man that you’re in shape. Why does this matter?

For starters, it tells us that you’re not an idiot. Remember, good sense and intelligence?

The Body Positivity movement and “don’t fat-shame” crowd is for those who want to live in that part of Egypt called “Denial.” Your looks do matter. Beauty is a gift. Unless a man is blind, all men want a woman who’s pleasing to the eye and we’re talking about more than your face.

Are there outliers who want obese women? Absolutely. But you gotta ask yourself, what are the odds and are you willing to accept those odds? Recently, there was an obese woman who managed to attract a hot guy, so she started preaching to other fat women how they shouldn’t listen to people who are telling them to lose weight. This is not wise.

Again…as a Christian, this is tricky to say…but if I no desire to have sex with you, I will always only see you as just a platonic friend. I’ve had hundreds of female friends with pretty faces, but they were very overweight. Call us shallow. Call us superficial. You can even call us unholy or ungodly, and you might be correct about all of that.

Now what? Calling us all these things doesn’t change what we’re attracted to.

Secondly, for reasons I just mentioned, staying in shape and making sure you’re sexually desirable demonstrates that you care about wanting to please the man you’re with.

When I hear Women try to shame Men for their sexual preference, it’s very telling. It screams, “You as a Man need to let go of your own wants and desires and accept me as a Woman for who I am and what I choose to do.”

This is a woman not worth marrying.

Why? Because, if you don’t care about your weight and you believe men shouldn’t care either, it comes across that you won’t prioritize other people’s wants and desires above your own. Not exactly the self-sacrificing qualities of a wife and a mother.

And lastly, when you post multiple high angle pictures showing the same type of photo but different locations, all while hiding your figure…it tells us that you’re deceptive.

Meaning, you know exactly what it is that men want, but you’re intentionally hiding that in the hopes that your face is so pretty, he’ll be tricked into wanting you.

Again…not wise. You’re playing with fire by gambling on such tactics. If you manage to go on a date with him and he loses interest despite showing such strong favor online, you have nobody to blame but yourself.

3. Be Yourself and Provide Info in Your Bio

Keep in mind that everybody is different. Our preferences are different and our personalities are different.

I’ve seen plenty of Hot Women create profiles, upload their photos, but they leave their bios completely blank. I don’t even attempt with these women. I think it’s so unattractive and narcissistic.

It screams, “I’m sexy and I know it. My looks are all I need to bring to the table. I don’t need to do anything else to help you in life, like give you an ounce of information to latch onto and start a conversation with me. Figure it out all on your own. Now, go.”

Even if that’s not what you’re intentions are…it comes off that way. Or, as my wife pointed out, many will just assume you’re a bot. Those of us who are looking for a spouse and a helpmate are likely going to pass on you, because out of the gates…you’re demonstrating that you aren’t going to lift a finger to help us.

Thus, I think it’s in your best bet to give plenty of information about yourself, or “enough” that will make it easy for a person to latch onto and start a conversation with you.

If you have some deal breakers or things that are non-negotiables, mention that. And when you mention it, don’t write about it in such a negative light, like the women who say, “I’m done dealing with hook-ups” or “I only deal with mature men.”

Instead, be uplifting like, “I admire mature men who carry themselves with respect” or “I believe in waiting until marriage because I want that first time with you to be special.”

Men will grasp the tone of your message and respect you for your preferences, boundaries, and standards.

Even if you’re a single mother, you don’t have to declare, “My children come first!”

Instead, you can write with positivity and say, “I have two wonderful children and they mean the world to me!”

Again…men will respect that. It sounds like you love them and they’re good to you. We may not “prefer it” but at least we’ll respect you.

Now, I understand that it might sound contracting to encourage you to write with positivity if that’s not who you are. But you can change who you are if you choose to. In fact, I’d encourage you to work on your personality if you’re prone to being negative and a Debbie Downer.

4. Lead With Your Faith…

Long ago, one of my uncles (who also happens to be a pastor) ridiculed me for wanting to talk about my faith on the first date. Plenty of dating coaches and Red Pill advisors will tell you to leave your “Christianity at the door” because women aren’t checking for Christians. Even Women are reluctant to lead with their faith because they’re afraid they’ll scare the guys off.

But isn’t that the point?

Christ himself said that many will enter by the broad gate but few will enter through the narrow one. That’s not to say that anyone who rejects us is rejecting Christ…but it stands to reason that you’ll be rejected by most people because of your love for Christ.

And if I’m being completely honest…there is honor in that. As a servant of Christ, it was my honor to endure years of loneliness while putting faith in Him. My loneliness and being refused by women is a small penance to pay compared to the likes of Joseph or Elijah or Isaiah and Jeremiah.

That’s not to say that I’m more righteous than all the women who rejected me, but to explain that the Scriptures do give us comfort. It warns that the world loves its own and hated Jesus. And because we are chosen by Jesus and don’t belong to the world, the world will hate us too (John 15:18-21)

I didn’t put Christ in my Dating Profile to shame others. I didn’t talk about God on my first dates to make people feel bad. I did it because it was wise and makes intellectual sense.

My Christianity isn’t just this thing I clothe myself in on Sundays or religious holidays. It’s who I am. It’s my life. If you don’t believe in the Bible or see it as the word of God, it won’t work out with me because I live my life according to the Scriptures.

I say its wise and makes intellectual sense because I trust in Him who created us. If he calls us to live a certain way, I’ve witnessed and observed how we tend to do well in life if we simply obey, instead of thinking we as humans know better than Jehovah.

I say “Lead with Your Faith” because I intend to get married only once and stay married for the rest of my life.

In this world of no-fault divorce and irreconcilable differences, where everyone’s standard of right and wrong is based on their feelings which can be manipulated and twisted and subject to hormonal changes, essentially making themselves their own god so they can justify every bad decision and immoral thing they do, say, or believe…

There’s no way I could ever marry a woman like that. So, I led with my faith to ward off all the horoscope women, all the karma women, all the women who believe in the spirit of the universe, and leftists and liberals who prioritize the feelings of humans over how God feels.

I tried to make it work with one woman who was on the fence about religion, and I tried because she was at least opened to learning about God. But in the end, her personality, her culture demonstrated that it wouldn’t have worked with me.

By the grace of God, I found someone who is Christian, knows God’s name is Jehovah, and enjoys learning about God as much as I do. She isn’t perfect. She isn’t on my level in terms of knowledge or commitment to God. But I see her striving to learn. We have Bible studies together and I can see her face light up every time I finish praying for us.

I led with my faith and became richer than all the millionaires combined. Because what’s the point of all that money if it can’t get what you want the most in this world?

5. How to Demonstrate Interest Before the 1^st Date

Some of the things I’m about to discuss in this sub-heading, others would say you should save it for the first date. There’s plenty of people who think you shouldn’t be having long and deep conversations via text, DMs, and phone calls, but that you should save it for the first date and in person.

I’m sorry, but I have a different opinion. My time is valuable and before I sacrifice it to go out of my way and come see you, I need to know you’re worth it. Especially if you live over forty minutes away.

Also…elephant in the room, but I suspect those who prefer the first date for heavy conversations are doing it because they care more about going out, having fun, or getting laid than marriage from the get-go. It’s kind of like “Love is Blind” where I highly suspect a lot of people care more about being on TV and going on that trip to Mexico than actually digging deep to find if someone is worth saying “I do” to.

The Art of Conversation is a beautiful thing. I don’t think it’s manipulation, but simply experience and intelligence to know what kind of questions to ask to elicit the response or information you’re looking for.

For instance, once he tells you what he does for a living, a simple, “How long have you been working there?” can tell you a lot more than you think. Is he in and out of jobs? His employment record and years of consistency can tell you how much you can rely on him to be a provider.

Find out his long and short term goals. There’s no right or wrong answer here, but you need to determine if his goals are aligned with yours, or at the very least they won’t hinder yours.

With the three matches I found this year, including Julia, each of them asked what I was hoping to get from Match.com. I told them, “marriage.” They were looking for the same thing. Some people aren’t.

Also…be mindful of the questions they DON’T ask. I think it’s suspicious if a man claims to be marriage minded but he doesn’t ask about your family, culture, or religion.

If you disclose a painful experience or memory, and he doesn’t dive deeper into that or at least show empathy or the kind of strength and support you’re looking for, I’d be weary of that.

That goes both ways, ladies, and I’d argue that it’s more important for women to show empathy, kindness, warmth, and understanding than men.

Why? Because regardless of society’s breakdown of the gender roles, no man wants to feel like he’s more emotional, sensitive, and sentimental than the woman he’s with.

You often hear women criticize today’s men for not being as masculine of the men of yesteryear (which is what society’s been pushing for)…but that’s also because women are more masculine than their mothers and grandmothers.

If he opens up about what he’s gone through, and you respond with little to no empathy or emotional support (because you aren’t equipped to handle a man’s feelings as Red Pill Content Creators suggest), he’s likely not going to do that again.

You have to understand that it’s a popular message being told to men that they shouldn’t open up and be vulnerable around women because she’ll use that against him.

If he takes a chance on you to see if you’re different…you don’t want to prove those men right by shutting him down, showing that you don’t care, thinking less of him, or belittling him for having those feelings in the first place.

If you want a man to trust you with his heart…it begins in those first conversations.

For instance, if you tell a man that you’re a painter, and he doesn’t ask questions like “what kind of painter?” or “what got you into that?”…does it sound like he care about who you are as a person?

Likewise, if a man tells you that he’s a body builder and you don’t dig into that or show any fascination, he’s going to assume you don’t care. That, or you’re interested in him for reasons other than who he is as a person…which isn’t great.

Ladies, for men like me…the quickest way for me to draw close to you is knowing that you trust me enough to be open and forthwith with me. If conversations are too one-sided, that’s not going to work. If I tell you about my family and when I ask about yours, you give me pits and pieces, that’s not going to work.

When I first started talking to Julia, she claimed that she’s the quiet reserved type. But after our first couple of exchanges, she could not stop talking.

I liked that.

I do get that ladies need to be cautious. I’m not saying you should give details like your address, job, or how to find you. I’m talking about your likes, dislikes, interests, and hobbies. Julia didn’t tell me her address until after the 3^rd or 4^th date.

Furthermore, if you’re a woman who “claims” you don’t “like to play games,” then don’t make the man play guessing games or 20 questions.

The more down to earth, reasonable, and easy going you seem, the more approachable and likeable you become. Especially to high value men who aren’t looking for something to further complicate and challenge their already hectic lives.

The 1^st Date: Public Place 

Ladies, any man like me who’s aware of what’s happening in the world will understand, appreciate, and respect that you 1) won’t go back to his place for the first couple of dates, and 2) won’t give him your address for the first couple of dates.

At the same time, if a man chooses not to go “all out” for you on the first date, it would behoove you to also understand why. It may not be because he’s cheap or that he doesn’t think you’re worth it.

We understand that there are awful men who only care about getting into your pants. You gotta understand that there are awful women who only care about being wined/dined/and entertained with no desire to really consider him as a boyfriend.

I respect a woman who plays it safe and cautious in the beginning. If you’re going to be my future wife, it’ll put my mind at ease knowing that you’re savvy when it comes to not putting yourself in harm or temptation’s way, whether it’s intentionally or accidentally.

I remember with one of my matches, Sonia. She told me that when she hit the gym, she deliberately looked mean and gave a fake names when men tried to “holla at her.” While the casual lying was something of note, it did demonstrate that she took her safety seriously and she didn’t go out of her way to seek male attention.

So, I’d encourage ladies to meet their dates in a public place AND be open to the coffee date. I know a lot of female content creators have bashed men for the Coffee Dates, or they expect men to spend a certain amount, or that they should avoid the Cheesecake Factory.

What sense does it make for him to spend a fortune on the first date when you two aren’t even in an exclusive committed relationship yet, only for you to see his personality and politely decline saying, “I don’t think this is going to work.”

When women jeer that most men “can’t afford to date,” they’re correct. A lot of us can’t afford to date entitled and unreasonable women.

We CAN, however, afford to date women who care more about getting to know us than how much we spend. It’s another reason why “Plain Janes” get wife’d up over those who think they’re the “Pretty Girls.”

My first date with Julia was at Dave and Busters in Orlando. And even though I planned on paying for everything, it was just by chance that she already had free “game cards” from job. So, we got to play unlimited air hockey and arcades and I didn’t have to spend a cent.

Regardless of all that…the most important thing about our first date wasn’t how much money we were willing to spend on each other; it was how much we simply enjoyed each other’s company. I had more fun talking with her as we walked down International Drive than I did playing games with her.

And if she was here, Julia would tell you that she knew I was “the one” when I made it my business to go hunt down a water bottle when she said she was thirsty. Lol, to me, it was no big deal. But to Julia, she appreciated how much I prioritized her needs.

How Much Money Should You Spend on a Dating Site?

There are some sites where you can sign up for free, such as OKCupid and Plenty of Fish. But in order to see who “liked you” sooner than later, you have to pay.

Out of all the Dating Apps, which I talked about here, I’d recommend Match.com for those who are ready for a serious relationship.

If you’re using a paid membership on Match.com, you can see the ladies who are also paying and I’d recommend prioritizing them over those who don’t.

The ladies who DON’T pay, might be bots (fake accounts) and they might respond to you months later. But the ladies who ARE paying, they’re already demonstrating that they’re willing to make sacrifices and investments to have a relationship.

The trick is to come up with a strategy that works for you and your budget.

To the ladies…I can’t speak from experience. But if you’re in-shape, no tattoos, smile in your photos, and present yourself as a positive woman who was raised with common sense…I imagine you won’t need but a couple of months of being on the sites before you come across a man who checks off all the boxes.

For the fellas, it’s going to take a lot longer, for sure, because the Bible tells us the kind of woman we want is rare. So, I’d recommend signing up for the 6-month deals at a time because you’ll probably need it.

Patience is Golden:

Again, this one goes out to the fellas. I wrote an essay about the Scarcity vs Abundance Mindset. I proposed and married Julia because I knew women like her were rare as Proverbs 31 tells us. She didn’t just fall into my lap on Day 1. Or Year 1. So, patience is key when it comes to vetting ladies on the Dating Apps.

As men, we have to pray for the strength, patience, and wisdom to keep our heads up and endure the loneliness, while exuding the positivity and optimism that will attract a like-minded mate.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Time is on our side.

For the ladies…they have to pray for the same thing. And when it comes to strength and wisdom, this is key when it comes to resisting the ungodly temptation of immoral sex, money, and materialism.

It’s also important when it comes to beating back the fear of ending up alone forever.

One can argue that all the ladies who were raised with Christian values but turned to OnlyFans, they’ve given into the temptation of making fast money, the short-cut to getting what they want sooner instead of later.

Ladies and Gentlemen, good things really do come to those who wait. It’s more meaningful and significant when you’ve sacrificed, exercised patience, and worked hard to get it.

Remember, even though I signed up for Match.com in Feb 2024 before finding my future wife in May of that year…this was still just my third attempt at online dating.

I did it before in 2021 and 2014. I had plenty of options, met all kinds of personalities…but at the end of the day, I always had the strength and courage to walk away from a “bad deal” fully aware that with each woman I passed on, I might not get another chance.

I’m not encouraging you to treat each person as expendable. Please don’t do that. What I am saying, is that you need to stop treating people like they’re contestants on Pop the Balloon, and more like your future depends on the decisions you make.

You need to consider what the rest of your life looks like with this person. What would your family look like? Will they be a good mother/father for your children? Can you see yourself waking up to this person every day? Can you see yourself coming home to this person every day?

I used to ask myself, “If we crash landed alone on a remote island together, just the two of us, could we co-exist and enjoy our time together without any electronics, social media, or outside family? Is this a person I can rely on to help us thrive in uncharted territory? Or would this person complain, be useless, and make life even more miserable than the challenges already presented?”

Prayer and Trust in God

I’d like to wrap up this series with the importance of placing trust in God. I already talked about “leading with faith”…but when you go years of praying and it still hasn’t happened, you do run the risk of thinking God isn’t hearing your prayers or that you need to abandon your faith and do what the world is doing to “succeed”.

In 2023, when I used to go to a certain church, they had this segment in the middle of service where the couples would go on stage and talk about their marriage.

And believe it or not…it wasn’t exactly inspiring when you’d hear how a husband or wife used to live an immoral life and run the streets when he found his Christian mate who took a chance on him and got them to believe in God.

It should be inspirational. But to those of us who resist temptation and we’re not rewarded with anyone…it’s a messed up thing to hear. It’s hard not to hear their testimony and interpret it as, “I used to run with the world and God rewarded me with a beautiful wife!”

It’s the same when you encounter Christians who hear how you’re saving yourself for God and respond with, “I should have done the same.”

Yeah, but you didn’t. And if you could go back in time, would you?

I’m not pointing this out to shame those Christians…but to illustrate how difficult the fight is to remain steadfast and loyal to the Scriptures. Everywhere you turn, there will be temptations, devices, and instances that provoke you to think that you’re an idiot or foolish for sticking to the Scriptures, for obeying.

You’ll be hit with the logic of, “God will understand if you disregard these scriptures. He’ll forgive you because you’re just doing what it takes to get married.”

That’s why I try to read the Bible every night, my friends. God’s steadfast love does last forever. He won’t forget you. He sees you. He is your heavenly father holding out that umbrella to shield you from the pressures of the world.

Stick close to him and he’ll take care of you in his time. So, trust that His time is the right time.

Even when you are presented with a woman, you have to rely on him to bless you with the wisdom to recognize she’s worthy of marriage. Trust me when I say there were times when I wanted to impulsively end things with Julia. I had the same thoughts anyone would have.

“Can I do better? Is she worth it? In the time that I’m spending committed to her, am I passing by on another woman who’s a better match for me? Do I really love her? Or do I love not being alone and the feeling of simply being with someone, anyone?”

These are reasonable concerns. And when I’d go out, I’d still see more attractive women in my day to day life, especially at Crunch Fitness. Thus, the fear of “missing out” was always clinging. But by the grace of God, I had the wisdom to think long term and keep my eye on the bigger picture.

Finding hot attractive women isn’t an issue. Finding someone who’s also intelligent enough to accept, appreciate, and follow my lead in a culture where women are corrupted by Feminism and encouraged to be more like men…that’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack.

The day after we got our Marriage License was February 15, 2025. When we were out by my spot-by-the-water, Julia asked, “Do you think we should’ve done marriage counseling?”

I immediately responded with, “F**k no!” I went on to explain, “Julia, you are different. You are not like most women. And I’m not like most men.”

That isn’t to knock marriage counselors. But if something isn’t broke, don’t fix it. Turning to the Bible and Jehovah is all the counseling we’ll ever need.

It’s been nearly a year since we got together and we never fought, argued, or raised our voices to each other. We’ve had serious conversations, disagreements and even cried with each other. But it was always out of love, our voices were soft, tender, and delicate with each other.

Last night (April 26, 2025), I told her the main reasons why I think we’ll never fight is because she doesn’t have an egotistical need to be “right” or prove that she’s better…and I simply embody the pursuit of truth.

If she gives me advice that I think is wrong, while I may have pride, my need to pursuit the truth won’t stop me from admitting I was wrong. I’ve never been afraid to apologize. In fact, my conscience will nag at me until I do.

What it Means to Commit

Then there’s commitment.

The night after I proposed to Julia…I honestly had a petrifying thought in bed.

“This is it. There’s no going back. There’s no way I can change my mind and break this woman’s heart. She’s such a sweetheart. She doesn’t deserve that. She will be my wife. Through thick and thin, I have to make this work. I will make this work. From this point on, she is under my care.”

Commitment is “going all in.” It’s putting all your chips on this one person, fully prepared and willing to spend your life with this one person and nobody else.

I saw a recent study where apparently a majority of women have back-up plans and guys they already have in mind for if the marriage fails. That’s not commitment.

I saw a recent Instagram reel where a man canceled their honeymoon because he found out his new wife texted her ex, on the morning of their wedding, to say goodbye. To some people that might not sound like a big deal, but to me, it shows she didn’t commit to him and him alone until the final moment.

When you commit to a person in marriage, especially a Christian marriage where the Scriptures teach us that the only permissible reason for divorce isn’t irreconcilable differences, financial problems, or even any kind of physical, mental, or emotional abuse. The only permissible reason for divorce is if your spouse committed adultery.

Thus, there is no plan B. It’s this one person and nobody else.

So, whatever effed up inkling of doubt that enters the never-ending storm of my mind by Satan and his wicked demons, I’m committed to see through those choppy waters to reach clear skies. No matter what. I’ll never give up on her.

Focusing on God’s word the Bible and the Kingdom of Heaven, my love for God will help me to power through. Challenge happily accepted.