Stage In The Sky

Here, we have an interview where a 40-year-old woman explains that the reason why she broke up with her Good Man…is because the Sex wasn’t good. This woman claims to be a Christian. The man she was with, claimed to be a Christian. This is a problem.

Ladies and gentlemen, plainly put…all sex outside of marriage is wrong. If you’re engaging in the hook-up culture, if you’re having sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend and you’re not married, you’re indulging in sexual immorality. It’s called fornication. According to 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, the Scriptures tell us that people like this have no place in the Kingdom of Heaven.

In the video, you’ll find around 8:47 mark, that the woman says, “I would literally pray” for the sex to get better. And then she laughs that, “I probably shouldn’t have been praying to God to fix the sex in my non-married relationship.”

What this tells us is that she and millions like her, men and women…they KNOW. They know what they’re doing is wrong as they indulge in sex outside of marriage. So why do they keep doing it? Don’t worry, I’ve been working all month on an essay addressing some common reasons, but the one I want to hit on in this post is the idea that you just “got to get with the times.“

In my video about AI Girlfriends, a female CNN contributor named Liberty Vittert was asked if something has shifted in terms of the power dynamics between young men and young women.

Vittert said, “I think there’s certainly an argument there, that if you look at college campuses, there’s more women than men. Women are having careers, they’re having children later. So there might be an argument that men need to adapt to this change in women. But calling it women’s fault, I don’t think is the right way to go.”

I keep coming back to her call that “men need to adapt” when it comes to these issues. Not just men, but even Christian women are dealing with it.

Because by “adapt”…I’m willing to bet they mean, “If you want a relationship, if you want a boyfriend or girlfriend, you have to let go of your antiquated thinking, leave your Christianity at the door, and get with the times. Right now, sex before marriage is cool and acceptable. Everyone’s doing it. If you refuse to do what we’re doing, then you only have yourself to blame for why you’re single and nobody wants you.”

And to be honest, I think that’s fine. Which is why I don’t go for women who don’t believe in the Bible or living by Christ’s standards.

What drives me up the wall, however…is when you DO find people who CLAIM to be Christians and they, EVEN THEY have left Christianity at the door and “got with the times” when it comes to Sexual Immorality. It drives me up the wall because of the influence and peer pressure they spread by claiming to be Christian, while not living as a Christian.

Other young and upcoming Christians will see that, and think it’s okay if they do the same. Thus, we have a whole generation of sexually immoral Christians engaging in normalized pre-marital sex. And the ones who abstain are seen as the oddballs, the weird ones, the undesirables, the stick-in-the-muds…the dreaded “Conservatives.”

“Go ahead, Rock! Stop being so stubborn! Everyone’s doing it. If you’re saved then God says your sins will be blotted out and forgiven. So go ahead. God will forgive you. You need this. God will understand. He sees the times we’re living in. If you don’t, you’re just going to continue to get older. It’s going to be even harder for you to find someone because everyone’s doing it. So if you don’t, you’re just going to die alone. God doesn’t want that for you. He wants you to be happy. You’re being too hard on yourself.”

Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it. For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul? – Matt 16:24-26

Sorry, ladies…for me to cave in and have sex before marriage, I’d see that as a deep betrayal to my Heavenly Father. Like King Solomon before me, I was warned so many times over the past 10 years about how sexual immorality has a way of leading me astray, of turning me off of the path to salvation and abandoning my faith in the one True God.

“But Rock! If the woman you’re having sex with is also a Christian who believes in the same God, then how will you be led astray. It’s not like she’s going to get you to start worshiping pagans or the devil.”

What about worshiping ourselves, our wants, our pursuit of pleasure, or our emotions? What if her true intentions is to get me to worship her? To put her wants and desires over how God calls us to live?

“Rock, you’re overthinking things. She’s not trying to get you to worship her. Calm down. It’s not that serious.”

My brothers and sisters…it won’t be easy to resist the pressures of the world. Recall Jesus’s Parable, where he talks about how there will be many who hear the word, but the pressures of the world and the deceitfulness of riches will choke the word out of them.

Make no mistake, Sexual Immorality is one of those pressures. The deceit is that you can live however you want, do whatever you want if it makes you happy, and that God will forgive you so long as “at some point”…you claim to be a Christian.

I can’t say that those people won’t be forgiven. That’s not my place. But having read the entire Bible, you gotta remember that God’s seen mankind since the days of Adam, all the way through the Great Flood, the days of Egyptian bondage, and generation after generation of people repenting, falling away, breaking their covenants, and only asking for salvation once God executed his judgment in the form of famines and using armies like Babylon and Assyria to chastise (destroy and displace) his people.

My point is, God knows your heart. He knows our minds and he’s probably seen millions more clever with tricks and mind games than you. You’re playing with fire through with your nonchalant attitude towards following God’s Word. Even those who don’t care to pick up the Bible and find out what God thinks on the matter, God sees that.

To my Brothers and Sisters who are enduring, who do resist this wicked world, and continue to deny themselves to carry the cross…you’re not alone. There are millions of us. I encourage you to find a church community if you need it to give you that said support.

And if you haven’t found that church community just yet, know that God himself is with you. It would be a blessing to have a loving companion in marriage to help you endure this world. But if you don’t have that just yet, don’t be dismayed or think that you’ve been forgotten or neglected. Consider everything else you’ve been blessed with.

God does indeed reward us. But sometimes those rewards don’t come in the form of things the heart wants. Always, he rewards us with what we need. (Heb. 6:10; 11:6) Keep praying. Keep asking that God give you the strength, discipline, and faith to endure. Trust me when I say, if you pray in earnest, he will move mountains for you.

Love