The benefit of having gone nearly 20 years before I was able to find a woman worth marrying, is that I have insightful, boots-on-the-ground experience when it comes to today’s Dating Culture.
I’m not saying that one MUST experience something to talk about it…but if you are going to talk about it…and WORSE…talk about it with a sense of Authority as if you KNOW what’s going on with very little research. Be prepared to have people look at you like Leonidas before he kicked that one dude into the pit.
Instead we won’t be screaming, “This is SPARTA!” We’ll be screaming, “THIS IS REALITY!“
Today’s source of agitation comes from a guy named T.J. Moe.
T.J. Moe is one of my favorite commentator’s on Jason Whitlock’s “Fearless” show, where they talk about sports, culture, politics, and religion.
They have a special program called “Jason Whitlock Harmony” where they try to approach current events with a Christian lens…but in the video I’m presenting, T.J.’s take is so out of touch that I felt compelled to say something.
In the above clip I have queued up, Nick Fuentes is interviewed by Tucker Carlson where he’s asked, “why aren’t people marrying?“
Nick gives a frank answer where he opines that the main problem is “it’s the Women.” Points he bring up include:
- They’re extremely Liberal
- They’re feminists
- They think genders are a social construct
- They naturally want Strong Men, but don’t want to work for them
- They like vague appeals to equality
- They’re never held accountable for their choices (like abortions)
- No fault divorce laws, wanting child support and half the man’s stuff
- Overweight
- Very High Estimation of Themselves (Hoeflation)
- Obnoxious and loud-mouth
Now…ladies, if you read those points and none of it applies to you or women you know. Congratulations. Seriously, I’m glad you exist and you’re not like that.
But that doesn’t dismiss the fact that women like this do exist. The reason why Nick Fuentes is gaining SO MUCH traction is for the same reason people like Kevin Samuel gained traction. He’s saying things a lot of men are afraid to say.
Why? Because what happens when we do?
Do you believe us? Do you think we are just complaining?
What kind of reaction are we met with when we point out our observations and experiences with today’s women?
Are we met with compassion and understanding? Or are we constantly told from the mainstream to “be better” or that “all men are trash?”
Well…that brings us to T.J. Moe.
For those who don’t know, T.J. is a 35-year-old former NFL player who clearly loves God and family. He’s definitely intelligent, conservative and his wife and children mean everything.
TJ is an awesome person. If I met him in real life, we’d be great friends.
HOWEVER…one subject I wouldn’t want to hear from TJ on, is the topic of dating. In the video below, I have it queued up to when he starts talking on the subject.
T.J. insinuates that the problem is men. That men aren’t worth following and they’re essentially losers. I left a comment on the video that says the following:
“I hear you, TJ. You are right. But the focus and priority is wrong. Yes, there are men out there who are losers. But that’s not the cause of these Feminists. There’s literally a Movement called Men Going Their Own Way who gave up on wanting to be leaders because they don’t like what they’re seeing out there. The options aren’t worth it.
“Furthermore, it’s the Feminists and Single Mothers (women) who raise the men who aren’t worth following. It’s the women’s mate selection (poor choices) that have them ending up as Single mothers, with the exception of widows of course.
“But let’s say you’re right, TJ. When those Men complain, what are they told in response? It’s usually something along the lines of “get your money up, hit the gym, focus on your purpose, find God” and all that, right? It’s how you yourself responded, TJ. As if they have no right to complain. They get no compassion, no sympathy. Just man up and do what you’re supposed to do.
“Okay cool.
“Now, what happens when all the Women Nick are talking about complain? Are they told to to Women Up? Are they being encouraged to be chaste, submit to their husbands, be more kind, feminine, and Christ-like? To be helpmates? Or are they told to keep being boss babes, be strong and independent, and that they’re all 10s, they don’t need to lose weight, they’re perfect the way they are?
“Because that’s what people like TJ don’t understand. And I say this with both sadness and compassion. If MEN are the only genders constantly being told that they’re not good enough and they should keep working to better themselves while Women are told they’re good the way they are…which gender is actually going to grow and improve?”
Legit food for thought. I’d encourage you to really linger on that last point, because that can apply to anything.
Reminds me of my last essay about how some Christians prioritize the message of “you’re saved no matter how many times you sin.“
If those Christians are constantly told their saved no matter how many times they sin, while other Christians are told that if they keep disobeying then they’re not saved…which kind of Christian is more likely to live by Bible standards and obey? (Hebrews 10:26)
Similarly…if women are constantly told that they’re good no matter what they do, they’re perfect 10s, and any attempt to hold them accountable (blame them for their own actions) is met with accusations of misogyny and sexism…how likely are they to grow up and be Proverbs 31 wives?
No lie, my wife and I just finished a Bible study about Genesis 24 this past Saturday, where the main sign for God’s choice to be Isaac’s wife and future matriarch for a whole nation, was based on her willingness to serve and be helpful. (Genesis 24:15-20)
The sign was this, if the servant asks the woman for the drink, the woman not only gives him a drink, but offers to pour water for the servant’s camels. (there were a lot of camels).
That’s what Rebekah did.
Now, I’m not saying that most men today are Christian men, nor are they deserving of a wife like Rebekah.
But to Nick Fuentes point, most men are more conservative leaning while most women are more Liberal leaning.
And by Liberal, we mean, they aren’t raised to prioritize taking care of the family and being a good helpmate to their husbands. They’re raised to prioritize fun, and experiences (sexual ones), even if it means going into debt, racking up a body count, or unplanned childbirths.
So when I see T.J. putting the emphasis and onus on Men…I’m a bit dubious.
In the above clip, T.J. responds to Jason Whitlock’s disbelief, that Nick Fuentes being a Catholic white boy with good social skills having a hard time finding a wife.
T.J. agrees and implies that men can go to church, they can go to social events, they can go to the grocery stores and see people (women).
And when T.J. Moe says, “A guy with his (Nick Fuentes) social skills…you should be able to talk to people anywhere.”
That told me all I needed to know with how out of touch T.J. is. I dropped final comment on the video saying:
“TJ, my guy. You’re a little out of touch. I’m a 90s kid myself bro. I long for the days where we could just walk up to a woman and start a conversation, or the dog park or wherever.
“But again…Nick’s talking about today’s modern women after the Metoo movement, where every woman elevated a casual encounter of a guy trying to holler at them with harassment. We’ve been called creepy in the gym, in stores, in our neighborhoods.
“And so, guys stopped approaching. Our peace means 10x more than the gut-wrenching feeling of being treated like a monster.
“I have to turn off the show at this point. Can’t listen to anymore. I’d encourage you to talk to the Korean Cosell and get introduced to people like Coach Greg Adams or even ChishaZed. Seek out the Better Bachelor.
“There are literally thousands of Tiktok videos with women telling on themselves, proving Nick’s points.”
And that’s the point.
There’s nothing inherently evil or malicious with being out of touch with what’s going on. I’m sure I’m guilty of speaking on subjects with much ignorance myself.
But when there’s SO MUCH EVIDENCE to the contrary…you deserve every shred of push-back you get. And yeah, I’m not the only one calling him out.
And why are we calling him out?
Because on an issue such as this, where deep down Men would LOVE to find a loyal faithful wife but they’re not willing to accept “just anything,” especially when there’s Biblical wisdom suggesting that it’s better for men to be alone than be with a quarrelsome wife. – Proverbs 21:9
…it’s kind of like when your kids bring home their report cards. Three kids have A’s and Bs, while one kid is failing.
And instead of prioritizing the kid with the F, to spare that kid’s feelings or make them feel better, we also have to pour equal scolding into the other kids that they need to improve too.
No…we should really prioritize pouring into the one that’s failing. The ones with A’s and B’s are doing alright. And when you make sure to indulge the whataboutisms and address everyone so the one who’s failing doesn’t feel bad, you end up watering down that sense of urgency or how much they clearly need more help/reproof/constructive criticism/and mentorship they really need. (Titus 2:3-5)
And I honestly think that’s the truth of it all. Even IF Men by and large don’t get married, compared to Women, we’ll still do alright and find peace, purpose, and fulfillment on our own. There’s so many memes, jokes, and reels of Men boasting how they can be very content with very little.
We can be content with very little.
Women, on the other hand and generally speaking, have evolutionary and biologically depended on the herd/village/friends/social circle.
So, to Nick’s point about the lack of marriages…well, using myself as an example…on paper I am everything women CLAIM they want in the man. And I’ve been this way for the past 8 years before, as I say, I FINALLY found a woman worth marrying.
I capitalized “claim” because what they say they want, versus what they really go for are two different things.
This is why I give credit and glory to God for not only finding a woman who is a Proverbs 31 woman, but also blessing me with the wisdom to lock her down sooner than later.
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