This is inspired by a comment that was left on one of my videos and it really touched my heart. Because I think it speaks to why I’ve seen how some Women claim to want a traditional man who’s virtuous and spiritual…but not religious.
I can’t help but think what they really mean is, “I want a man who has Christian values and believes in God but will ultimately choose to put my wants and desires over what the Bible says.”
She commented in my video about the Christian Red Pill. It starts out as just a fun journey where I talk about how I discovered the Red Pill spaces back in 2016, but I conclude it with a lot of strong messages about how the Bible is my ultimate compass and how I call upon Men and Women to repent before it’s too late.
Amara’s Comment to the video above:
And this is one reason I don’t like church. Church and male interpretation of Christianity has always been redpill. I sat in church for 25 years and heard same crap. That is why I left I got tired of hearing how insignificant I was as woman and how only important men are.
I saw that and had to respond with:
Hey Amara! I just wanted you to know that I can definitely understand your perspective on that. The emphasis on male leadership and the importance of men does sometime come across as if Women aren’t AS important. If my video gave you that sense, I really do apologize because as a fervent Christian, I like to say that “Men and women are equal in value, but different by nature.”
I was wondering if i might provide another perspective to consider. In my last video about “Pandering Pastors” we see Pastor DeVon Franklin preaching the complete opposite, as if Men are the one who are broken and women came into this world complete, not needing a man.
Any Christian who posits that men and women don’t need each other, or one gender is better than the other…I’d be skeptical about their theology. Men and Women were created for each other.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but I have a theory…that the reason why so many women are bothered by the idea of Men being the heads of their households and male leadership…is because you were simply TOLD by today’s modern society and the last 40 years of Feminism, that anything a man can do, a woman can do.
In Jesus’s Sermon on the Mount, he talks about the meek and humble being blessed and inheriting the earth. I believe that part of being humble is letting go of one’s pride and ambitions if it goes against how God calls us to live.
Meaning, if society, or your own personal ambitions have you wanting to be the one in power, with control, and submitting to no man…are you really humble?
Lastly, I’ll leave you with 2 Timothy 2:15. That scripture has Apostle Paul telling ladies that women will be saved through child-bearing, if they continue in faith and love and holiness.
Pastor John MacArthur elaborates that even though Eve was deceived and led men through temptation to eat of the fruit, it’s also WOMEN, who have the distinct honor as mothers to steer their children to the path of God, instilling them with Christianity and thus improving their chances of being saved through everlasting life.
My point being, Women are very significant. If you think that you aren’t because you aren’t satisfied with the roles God called you to live…with love, I’d encourage you to pray about it and ask for God’s guidance and direction. Trust me when I say there have been plenty of things in the Bible that had me feeling discouraged and hopeless. But through faith and trust that God’s ways are best, I’ve been able to overcome those challenges.
That was the response I gave her. And I get it…there’s a lot of assumptions and implications on my part. But still…it’s not the first time I’ve heard women who were raised in the church make such complaints.
The DeVon Franklin Video I referred to was this one, where I offered some criticism of Pastor DeVon Franklin’s obvious pandering to women, by saying “Adam was broken, Eve was complete.”
What bothered me the most about Franklin’s video, as another commenter pointed out, was this constant push to keep both genders at odds with one another. I really hate it so much. The cool thing about being a Christian, is that the roles of Men and Women aren’t decided by humans. It’s decided by God.
I say that’s cool because it should reduce or eliminate all these constant arguments over who’s right and wrong, or who should be doing what. If we relied on humans for that, it’d be dictated by their unreliable and ever-changing feelings, which all comes with selfish, unwise, and unscrupulous motives. But relying on God…that’s a beautiful thing.
I mentioned Jesus’s sermon on the mount because I really do believe it shows a lack of meekness and humility to see how God calls you to live, and to deliberately refuse to do that on the ambition that you want more for yourself.
I won’t go so far as to say this will keep you out of the Kingdom of Heaven, that’s God’s call. But I will say, as a discerning Christian male, it is a huge red flag and I’ll never entrust the lives of my future children, or my hand in marriage to such a person.
Not to mention, I think it says a lot for some women to think they aren’t important just because they aren’t given the role they want. For generations, we’ve lived in a society where it’s Women and Children first. It’s still that way. And while Feminists complain about things like equality in the boardroom, to have more female CEOs, I don’t see them talking about having more women in construction, on the hot roofs laying down shingles, or serving on the front lines in battle.
This is why some say that Feminism and Hollywood has corrupted so many. Because for generations, men and women understood/appreciated our roles. It wasn’t till the last 40 years or so that they’ve pushed the breakdown of gender roles. And frankly, if I was a woman, I’d be more insulted by Hollywood than the Bible.
Why? Because the underlining message from Hollywood is that THEY THINK men are more important than Women. Why else would they celebrate and prop up the strong female heroes who all act like Masculine Men, more so than the soft, nurturing traditional woman who has the power to heal, inspire and encourage by her mere God-given femininity?
Seriously, I’m trying to get through season 2 of Vikings Valhalla, and I can’t help but think, Man…these women want to be men so badly. I don’t doubt that female warriors existed, but if you saw that TV series, like…they make it a point that women simply do not need no man.
Men and Women are different by nature. I think that going against those roles is one of the main reasons why so many of us are frustrated, angry, and confused. We want to blame the other genders, or culture, or government, but really…the issue is you and your stubborn refusal to obey God’s commandments.
Lastly, whether you think you’re important or not…ask yourself, “Why does that matter?” When it comes to Christianity, everyone who endures to the end, Men or Women will have a place in the Kingdom of Heaven. That’s the ultimate goal. So, why is it so important to feel more important than Men when you read the Bible?
I think the way me and my current generation were raised, the sense of self-sacrifice is seen as foolish. We’re told that you shouldn’t do anything for a person who couldn’t care less about you. And when I hear women complain about their perceived lack of importance from the Bible, I think that’s one way to take it.
And if that’s true, I can see why my current generation of women would oppose it. I keep harping on my “current generation” because, ladies…if you haven’t read the Bible for yourself, can you really say you know it. Can you say you know God or Jesus Christ?
I can tell you that reading the Entire Bible has taught me that God is ALL-Knowing, All-Powerful. He can be in this room as I type this, and wherever you are as you read it. He knows you. He does love you. Who cares if he might love someone else more. He loves you too.
I know as a man, I will NEVER be as important as the likes of King David or Moses. I won’t even be as important as the millions of pastors and church leaders where a great multitude are depending on their guidance. I know this. I know why. And unless God calls me to fill those roles, I honestly don’t want to be.
I’ve seen how God favors these men and it bothers me not. Knowing that God’s blessed me with knowledge of him by putting it in me to pick up the Bible and read all about him…that’s one of the greatest gifts he’s given me.
And I hope that he does the same for you too, because regardless of how you think you feel…Remember John 3:16. He so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish.
He did that for you. Because he loves you. If that’s not enough, if you think it means very little because he did that also for me and your brother, and your parents as well…I’d encourage you to pray that God softens your heart, my friends. I’d pray that he helps you to let go of your pride.
I know that I am but a grain of sand on the beach, a breath from his nostrils. There have billions of people who have existed since the Great Flood. I’m but one of many. Who’s more important or more significant shouldn’t even cross my mind. But I confess…sometimes it does when it comes to non-believers. But Psalms 73 helps with that lolol.
And just so you don’t think all I care about is harping on women…I call out the men too. There are lot of men who aren’t living as God called us to live. Men are to be the leaders of our households, and the world’s full of men who are failing at that.
You could say, “It’s not fair that men get to be leaders…”
But you could also look at it from a man’s perspective and say, “It’s not fair that I have to be the leader.”
“Nah-uh, Rock! You trippin. What man would complain about wanting to be the leader?”
You know what’s worse than complaining? Simply saying nothing while refusing to do it. Tricking people into thinking you are a leader while planning on shirking on those responsibilities all along.
I’d argue it’s the plethora of men who society likes to call the Dead-beat Dads, the men with multiple children outside of wedlock who women seem to can’t close their legs for. Shall I name a few? Nick Cannon, NBA Young Boy, Future, Young Thug, Shawty Lo, DMX, Fetty Wap, Mick Jagger, Young Joc.
I’d even argue that Men who are prolific playboys with no children are in that camp. Leo DiCaprio instantly comes to mind.
“What makes you say they aren’t leaders, Rock!? How do you know they aren’t leaders in their respective households?”
Being a leader isn’t just about giving orders and directions. It’s about giving the correct orders and directions. All these men who are having sex outside of wedlock, fathering multiple children, never faithful or committed to one woman in marriage are not living by example. I can tell you from experience that the WORST leaders are the ones who don’t even follow their own standards.
Why? Because, contrary to popular belief, people aren’t intrinsically good, as Dennis Prager has pointed out. Right and wrong, good or bad are given through God’s word the Bible. This has to be taught, trained, and molded into your followers.
When you have a bad leader who follows nothing but his own arbitrary standards, it prompts the followers to do the same. That’s why so many don’t know or can even comprehend what Integrity means. It means doing the right thing regardless of whether there’s a reward.
I saw an Instagram Reel just yesterday, joking about an employee leaving his shift early despite knowing his team needed help. A commenter said, “If management doesn’t care, why should you?” which got thousands of Likes.
I said, “Right?! Who cares about simply doing the right thing or being a good person. Just think only of yourself.”
Anywho…I hope that last part helps ladies to understand just as Women are called to submit to their husbands, Men are called to be Good Husbands. To Love and Honor their wives, which means never cheating on them, belittling them, or intentionally making them feel inferior or unappreciated. If you’re with a man who isn’t doing those things or believes in doing that, don’t marry him.
ONE LAST POINT – ADDED AUG 26 2023 – 8:07AM
I already mentioned 2 Timothy 2:15, when it comes to the importance of Women in motherhood. I really agree with Pastor John MacArthur’s assessment in the importance of mothers being good Christians and how there is honor in the women who help to lay the foundation of Christianity in their children while they’re still young. This is what my mother did and I love her for it.
But also…Ladies, I’m not sure how you’ll take this…but I’ve always believed that Women have more power than they want to admit. Why? Because Men WANT Women! When you look at American culture right now, especially the young people coming up…why do you think most young people want to grow up and be TikTokers and Influencers, instead of Astronauts and Doctors?
Remember this clip of Iyanla Vanzant asking Eboni K. Williams, “Would you date a bus driver?”
Eboni, with those poked-out lips said, “If he owned the bus.”
I’m not saying she’s wrong or right there, but I am saying that men aren’t blind to what’s happening. It’s attitudes like hers that prompt men to place such high value on money and status. Men see that and likely to think, “well damn…guess I can’t be satisfied and content with simply being a happy hard-working bus driver. Guess I have to work harder to own the bus.”
The same with the attorneys who can’t just be a hard-working attorney. No…guess they have to keep pushing to take on the pressures and responsibility to own their own law firm. Some of it is just a man’s ambition to compete and be better than everyone else. But a lot of it, has to do with getting women.
Myself included. In my 20s, one of the main reasons why I was so driven to be a published author was because I was in love with my Colombian paramour. I saw how fine she was. To this day, she’s still the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen. I knew…you can’t be with someone like that and have nothing going for you. So she was my muse, my fire, the fuel that drove me to keep working, to never take off, to strive to accomplish my goals. Because I wanted her so badly. lol, God knows.
Men see the kind of guys women are throwing themselves at. We see the kind of men that women are going for and in order to get those women, Men will forsake principles, standards, decency, and sometimes, even the law just to win her hand. Check out this clip:
I know this is going to sound like I’m BLAMING women, but I’m not. It’s on us men to continue to put God first, over what we want for ourselves, which may be women.
But imagine what the world would look like if all the hottest, most beautiful women in the country only gave themselves to the responsible, the virtuous, the kind, the hard-working, God fearing men. Imagine what America would be like if a rapper who cursed, degraded women, and glorified selling drugs and shooting ninjas got NO women. Imagine a world where none of the Instagram models found the jobless, couch-surfing Pookies, Ray-Rays, and Brad’s attractive.
I’m telling you, in a world like that, more men would be INSPIRED, encouraged, and spurred to make something of themselves, to be good decent human beings, slow to anger, well-tempered, respectable, and prosperous.
That’s the power of women. It SHOULDN’T be their power, because Men should be striving to do what’s good in God’s eyes, more so than the eyes of women…but if more/most Women also put God first and gave their love, affection, and admiration to other practicing Christians who forsaked the Hook-Up Culture and believed in waiting till marriage to have sex, more Men would be those kinds of Christians.
“Nah-uh, Rock. What about the men! You could say the same thing about Men! Most of the women are altering their looks and showing off their bodies on Instagram because we see that most of the men are giving their attention to those women! So, you wouldn’t you say that Women wouldn’t be thotting it up on Instagram if more Men only gave their attention to…”
To who? Go on…finish that sentence. To the God-fearing Christians who are showing off their bodies? Because that’s an Oxymoron, like a porn-star calling herself a virgin.
But I get what you’re trying to say and even there, it’s just not the same, ladies. Shows like “Keeping up with the Kardashians” and “Gossip Girl” had been on air for years before I had seen a single episode for see what it’s all about. For years, I’ve heard about their popularity and I don’t think it’s the Men who idolized such personalities and characters.
Ladies…I know our culture has embedded this instinct to constantly look at every situation of “Whatever a man can do, we can do too…” but it’s not the same. Even in the dating scene with all this talk of “Equality” and the break down of gender roles…we know that’s all nonsense because a lot of you still expect Men to pay on the first date, to be the one to approach you, to make the first move, to plan that first date, to do everything, while you think that all you need to bring to the table is your riveting personality.
My point is…even in today’s current culture where a lot of Men see that Women are throwing themselves at the unscrupulous men with no morals or values…I’d argue that a majority of Men are still able to resist those temptations and this culture, more so than Women. And that’s not me saying that Women are better. It’s just our make-up, our design.
Ladies, if you’re honest with yourself, you’d admit that between Men and Women, WOMEN are more dependent on the herd, the village, the social group’s approval and validation than men are. This isn’t just Biblical, but it’s biological and psychological. A man can get kicked out of the herd and still do well, if not better. But if a woman is kicked out of the herd, her survival isn’t as high as a man’s is because she is the “weaker vessel.“
Again, I think if Women were a bit more meek and humble in the presence of God, a lot of these things wouldn’t be so abrasive to hear. If it’s your first time hearing it, I get it. Sounds like I’m misogynistic, as if I hate or think so little of women. That’s not true, my friends.
On the contrary, I think it’d be hateful and non-caring to see a person walking blindly towards the edge of the cliff and say nothing to stop them, or at the very least, warn them.
That’s all I’m doing. Of course, I could be wrong. I’m not above reproach myself and I have plenty of thorns in my own eyes that I’m working on removing. But check out the links and Scriptures I’ve highlighted. I’d encourage much prayer and I apologize if any of this is a stumbling block in your Christian journey.
I can tell you that in my own journey, there have been plenty of things that were disheartening to hear at first, but after much prayer and reflection, I eventually had the strength to accept it. One such thing, is my thoughts of getting married and finding the love of my life in the Kingdom of Heaven. But Jesus tells us that people won’t be given into marriage in the Kingdom.
When I first read that I was supremely depressed. I thought to myself, “So am I destined to be alone in this world and the next?”
But when I got to the Thessolonian Books, I’m sorry, I can’t remember which verses…I was comforted by the eschatology of trusting that God knows what’s best for us. I know people have speculated what happens to us after we die since the dawn of antiquity. But my fervent belief is that God knows us, he knows our pain and suffering. He knows our wants and desires. I believe that we’re not going to have these weak fleshly desires in the Kingdom of Heaven. I suspect/hope one of those desires will be the human companionship, the need or want to feel important in the eyes of our fellow humans.
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