4 comments on “The Truth About Wives Submitting to Husbands -Christians Who Reject Parts of the Bible

  1. This is tough, and a lot to work out. I don’t think any working out of this in the modern era guarantees anything, but I do believe, with humility, we all learn something about God, something about ourselves and others. I wish you well on your journey.

  2. You mentioned it just briefly, but the point needs to be made that if two people have equal authority in a marriage and they disagree, you’re at a stalemate. Someone has to make the final decision. If he’s smart, he will listen to what his wife has to say, think and pray hard about it, but sooner or later someone has to make the final decision, and it helps if the default position is the husband’s, otherwise it’s “You got to decide last time. It’s my turn!” (*eye roll*). – And if it turns out to be the wrong decision, he has to bear the responsibility – not an enviable position, if you ask me. I think God held Adam responsible for the original sin because he had been put in charge, and when Eve was being tempted, he didn’t intervene as he should have.
    I submit to my husband – I submit my thoughts, my opinions, my suggestions, and my advice. Often he takes that advice. Sometimes he asks me to do the things or make the decisions in areas I’m more knowledgeable in, and I will submit by taking over in that area. Other things he’s better at, and he’ll do – and I appreciate it. We’re a team.
    For those who object to being “like a slave,” keep in mind that Jesus, our Example, washed feet.

  3. Yes!
    Wives submit to husbands, amen.

    Submit one to another amen.

    ( Ephesians 5: 21, 1 Peter 5: 5)

    Because husband is head of wife, if they don’t agree, he has to decide based on obedience to God and he is held responsible.

    This doesn’t change the fact that the command to wives to submit is not a command to husbands to control. The command to submit is to wife.

    It’s not license for a husband to be selfish, but to obey the word, sacrificially and selflessly love his wife, partner with her, and if he feels the Lord is leading him to do what his wife is not in agreement with, he has to obey God and he is held responsible.

    Headship is the greater responsibility.

    This doesn’t negate loving her, being selfless, and putting God first, spouse second. It doesn’t negate esteeming one’s spouse better than themselves(Phillipians 2: 3-4).

    Misogynists throughout history highjacked the concept of submission and treated women as if slaves.

    The wife brings talent, insight wisdom and many other things to a marriage. God uses her. Her husband ought not to stunt what God is doing in her and through her. But God has placed a bigger responsibility on the man as head. So whatever decisions are made he will be responsible.

    Women tend to naturally submit to love. Husbands are called to love, but for some, their flesh wants to dominate in many cases. Yet the command is to love as Christ loved and gave Himself up, dying a terrible death for the church.

    Both men and women are responsible for doing what God tells us to do.

    Submission has been abused and most women won’t have a problem yielding to sacrificial Christ-like love.
    Yet, that love is typically the hardest thing for men to do.

    Because misogynists highjacked the process, they acted like headship and submission meant superior and inferior, and women rejected this. The word submission has been tainted by the adversary and messed things up.

  4. It is not enviable I agree. Headship is about responsibility, and servitude. This
    doesn’t appeal to flesh, so misogynists highjacked the concept and made it about control, selfishness, and domination, which appeals to the flesh.

    Your view is a very balanced view. We know Ephesians 5:22-24, but some seem to forget or ignore Ephesians 5: 21 and 1 Peter 5:5.

    The fact that there are areas in your marriage that you do things well in and you take care of those areas is an example of Ephesians 5: 21 I think.

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